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LIVE THE SONG – MUST I?

by Ruth Buezis
July 30, 2015September 22, 2016

Song of Songs 5:2-3

She

²I slept but my heart was awake.
    Listen! My beloved is knocking:
“Open to me, my sister, my darling,
    my dove, my flawless one.
My head is drenched with dew,
    my hair with the dampness of the night.”
³I have taken off my robe—
    must I put it on again?
I have washed my feet—
    must I soil them again?

REALLY??? Are you kidding me? It’s the middle of the night. I’m tired. I was just falling asleep.

This is going to ruin me for tomorrow, I will be so wiped out in the morning. I’ll be cranky and ugly and nasty if I don’t get some sleep. How can you even think of such a thing? You are so inconsiderate. You think I am going to hop up at a moments notice just because you happen to be in the mood.

INTIMACY – IT IS NOT ORDINARY

by Ruth Buezis
July 20, 2015August 9, 2018
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This week while at the doctor I was lamenting about how much I hated getting old and having reader glasses hanging on the tip of my nose in order to teach classes. She innocently asked what I teach, and I squirmed a little bit and then thought, why not?

“Sex classes to wives at church.”

She replied as she listened to the thump, thump of my heart, “That’s a good thing. Women can probably use all the help they can get.”

Then she said, ” Do you teach men’s classes?”

I was just about to answer that, ” actually I do and they are awesome…”

When she caught me by surprise and acridly laid out, “Cause men need to learn that our libido changes, especially after a certain age..”

This woman wanted her husband told that she didn’t need to have sex anymore because her body was not physically screaming for it. She could not have been older than 35 or 40 – tops. For many women, this is when we are just starting to relax and really enjoy things, but she was ready to be done.

I sensed the conversation was over, but I have been thinking about it all week.

How to Love Your Husband with Oral Sex

by Ruth Buezis
July 13, 2015November 6, 2019
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This is a detailed guide in how to pleasure your husband with oral sex and is part of my curriculum ,How to drive your man crazy.

It can take time to get comfortable loving your husband with oral sex. Start slow and just get to know him. Spend time touching him, kissing him, watching him and licking him. Lube him up with coconut oil so that you can combine hand work with your mouth. If you mouth starts feeling tense, use your hand and relax your jaw. If you are uncomfortable taking him deep, combine your hand with the motion of your mouth. You should always feel in control of what is going on. Ultimately it is just a way to know your husband up close and personal. Try to relax and focus on feeling every fiber of his body.

HOW TO DRIVE YOUR MAN CRAZY

by Ruth Buezis
July 8, 2015September 13, 2021
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Next Monday I teach a class titled “How to drive your man crazy” to women that have completed my 6 week Awaken Love class. It is a chance to go deeper and develop ideas in a safe group of women. I taught this class a couple of years ago and focused on physical technique for manual stimulation and oral stimulation. We even got out some large spoons, lubed them up with some coconut oil, and practiced some techniques. I’m sure that we will spend some time in that arena, but lately I’ve been thinking about how much more is involved than physical technique. Here are some of my ideas…

THE PLAY BOOK – Learning to have Great Sex

by Ruth Buezis
June 22, 2015September 13, 2021

Learning to have great sex is not all that different from learning to be a great quarter back. It takes years of practice to learn the fundamentals, master basic plays and create variation of those plays. Eventually you learn to call audibles, read the play as it unfolds and know your players well enough to anticipate their next move without even thinking about it.

Fundamentals

In order to have great sex, you need to start by learning the fundamentals. Stop making sex about getting a touch-down, but make it about connecting to your wife and getting to know her. You need to be present and eager to learn more. You need to stop rubbing her and feel her. Use your words to engage and arouse her by playfully talking about past connections or future possibilities. Redefine sex to include what works for her, vs what works for men.

THE LIES YOUR WIFE BATTLES

by Ruth Buezis
June 15, 2015February 13, 2020
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While most men make it to marriage expecting that “Sex is going to be the best thing ever”, most women have different expectations. We are bombarded with lies that set up barriers to enjoying sex in marriage. In order for a husband to empathize and encourage his wife to live in God’s fullness, it is helpful to understand the lies but also to realize that his actions can either enforce the lie or counteract them. Understand the lies your wife battles so that you can help her embrace the truth about sex.

Below are a list of the most common lies that women believe about sex. Will you help her battle them?

(A continuation of what I share in my men’s class, “What in the world is she thinking?”)

THE SWITCH – How to Turn On Your Wife’s Desire

by Ruth Buezis
June 8, 2015September 13, 2021

Women have this giant toggle switch and if it is turned “OFF” you will get absolutely nowhere. You might touch her exactly the right way, or say the perfect things, but her body does not respond. She acts like ice. Sometimes the switch will turn to “OFF” when she feels insecure about whether you really love her. She may test you to see if you will give up on her. If you pass the test the switch can flip to the “ON” position, and in an instant she can open up. So what does a woman need to feel to have her switch turned “ON”? Read More »THE SWITCH – How to Turn On Your Wife’s Desire

LIVE THE SONG – ONE GLANCE OF YOUR EYES

by Ruth Buezis
June 4, 2015September 22, 2016

Song of Songs 4-7-9

⁷You are altogether beautiful, my darling;

there is no flaw in you.

⁸Come with me from Lebanon, my bride,

    come with me from Lebanon.
Descend from the crest of Amana,
    from the top of Senir, the summit of Hermon,
from the lions’ dens
    and the mountain haunts of leopards.
⁹You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart
with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.

The eyes are so powerful. Over and over in Song of Songs, connection is made through eye to eye contact.

LIVE THE SONG – TWO FAWNS

by Ruth Buezis
May 28, 2015September 22, 2016

Song of Songs 4:5-7

⁵Your breasts are like two fawns,
    like twin fawns of a gazelle
    that browse among the lilies.
⁶Until the day breaks
    and the shadows flee,
I will go to the mountain of myrrh
    and to the hill of incense.
⁷You are altogether beautiful, my darling;
    there is no flaw in you.

It amazes me how entertaining breasts are to men….

DON’T GIVE UP – Using a Vibrator

by Ruth Buezis
May 20, 2015November 29, 2018

This week Julie Sibert over at Intimacy in Marriage posted a great article titled Encouraging Post menopausal women to not give up on sex….

In the article she shares an email from a post menopausal woman who discovered what a helpful tools vibrators can be. . As her menopausal body struggled to physically respond the vibrator added the extra physical stimulation to help her enjoy sex again. She felt excited as she and her husband could once again enjoy sex.

Vibrators

Vibrators have gradually become main stream for the general population. In the US over 50% of women have tried one at least once. The younger generation is much more open to their use than the older generation. Many of us did not grow up talking about sex or able to research sex on the internet. The idea of touching ourselves, participating in activities other than intercourse or using a vibrator is what “those other women” do, not us…

While sex is about more than having the biggest orgasm, God did intend wives to fully enjoy sex. Why else would He give us a clitoris?

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