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Feeling Beautiful with Your Husband

Song of Songs 1: 9-11

⁹I liken you, my darling, to a mare
among Pharaoh’s chariot horses.
¹⁰Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings,
your neck with strings of jewels.
¹¹We will make you earrings of gold,
studded with silver.

It may not seem like a compliment to be compared to one of Pharaoh’s chariot horses, but don’t get lost in the translation. Most commonly they used stallions to pull Pharaoh’s chariot, because they were the strongest horses. But when they wanted to go really fast, they would harness a mare in front of the stallions to drive them into a frenzy.

He is saying to her, “You drive me into a frenzy!” He thought she was absolutely beautiful and he did not hesitate to tell her.

Husbands – your wife needs to hear your words. Don’t make the mistake of thinking it and not speaking it. When you notice your wife, and you get that flutter in your stomach because you know you are the luckiest man in the world, tell her. If you see her curves and you think, “she is so hot”, tell her. When you look into her eyes and realize how beautiful she is, tell her.

Wives – You need to receive your husbands compliment. It is very easy to fall into the trap of looking to the world to define beauty instead of our husband. When your husband tells you how hot you are, if you immediately tell him all the things that are wrong, you have chosen the worlds truth. When your husband tells you how beautiful you are, unless you believe it in your heart, you will never be able to fully share yourself. Do you believe your husband loves your body and thinks that you are absolutely beautiful?

Put It Into Action

1. If your husband is good about affirming your beauty, then thank him and let him know how much it means to you. With a quiet husband, gently let him know how much you need to hear his words.

2. If you are in the habit of choosing the worlds truth about beauty, then confess it to your husband and covenant to receive your husband’s truth.

3. Pay attention to your husbands eyes on you – as you are getting undressed or dressed.

4. Surprise your husband by getting dressed up for you date this week, and enjoy his eyes on you.

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by Ruth Buezis February 3, 2020

The Power of Speaking Their Name

Song of Songs 1 :3-4

³Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes;
    your name is like perfume poured out.
    No wonder the young women love you!
⁴Take me away with you—let us hurry!
    Let the king bring me into his chambers.

Your name is “like perfume poured out.”

I am taken to that final scene of the movie Pride and Prejudice during a very intimate moment when Mr Darcy asks his new wife Elizabeth,

“What shall I call you?”

She replies, “Lizzy, for everyday. My pearl, for Sundays. and Goddess divine, but only on very special occasions.”

“And what shall I call you when I am cross?”, ” Mrs Darcy?”

“No, no. You may only call me Mrs Darcy when you are completely, perfectly and incandescently happy.”

He replies, “And how are you this evening, Mrs Darcy?” kiss, “Mrs Darcy.”, kiss kiss, “Mrs Darcy…”.

A Name

What an intimate thing. Our name, given to us, spoken by the one who knows us most, with the affection and familiarity of a treasured blanket. What a powerful thing.

How many of us have at one time or another come to the shocking realization that we were barking orders to our spouse as if they were a child. Have you listened to yourself lately? Does the tone of your voice belittle, disrespect, or even worse disdain? Does the tone of your voice speak impatience, or indifference. Do you make your spouse light up, or cower when they hear you speak their name?

Put It Into Action

1. Listen to yourself speak to your spouse and check your tone.

2. Speak your spouses name with tenderness and affection.

3. Brag on your spouse somewhere within ear shot of them.

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by Ruth Buezis February 2, 2020

LIVE THE SONG -Busted

I have a confession to make. …

Last year as I was writing the LIVE THE SONG series, I got to Song of Songs 6:10-12, and I totally came up empty. I had nothing. I had no idea what it meant and how to apply it so…

I left it out. I just skipped it and figured that no one would notice. But a few months later I got this email….

Hi Ruth
I have loved every one of your posts featuring Song of Songs and have read them many times over. Sad when I got the last one. I seem to be missing 6:10-12.
I have searched your blog several times and can’t seem to locate it.
Was this published? Help!
Thanks so much.

My first reaction was – how awesome that someone was actually reading Live the Song.

My second thought was – How embarrassing – Now I have to admit that I skipped a section.

So here is my best attempt…

Song of Songs 6:10-12

Friends

¹⁰Who is this that appears like the dawn,
fair as the moon, bright as the sun,
majestic as the stars in procession?

¹¹I went down to the grove of nut trees
    to look at the new growth in the valley,
to see if the vines had budded
    or the pomegranates were in bloom.
¹²Before I realized it,
    my desire set me among the royal chariots of my people.

I have to be honest…. I’m still not sure what to do with it. Sometimes when I read the Bible, I immediately know what it means. Other times, I chew on it for a while, or wrestle with it, and God gives me what I need. But sometimes, there are passages that I never understand. They are a mystery – and that’s ok. God is way beyond my comprehension and reality, and I will never understand everything about what He does or how He works.

Just because I cannot make sense of every detail of the Bible, I can make sense of part of it and I hold onto it. Don’t give up on God because you don’t understand everything about Him – ground yourself in what you do know…

He loves you
He is good
He is powerful
He is just
He redeems us
He is all knowing and we are not

Don’t give up on Song of Songs because parts of it are confusing. Take what speaks to you and put it into action. There are pictures of what intimacy looks like that are timeless.

The role of husband and wife in the marriage bed should be as equals
Stretch in using your words to express your love
Use all 5 of your senses to experience each other
Be creative and plan adventure
Insecurities of body image and feeling loved are a battle for women
Husbands adoring eyes and words build their wife’s confidence
God blesses our marriages and our marriage bed

Don’t give up on your spouse because you do not understand everything about them. Ground your self in what you do know…

God has made the two of you into one
Your spouse is broken just like you are
Your spouse cannot meet all your needs
Your spouse needs grace and love and encouragement to be the man or woman that God created them to be

So this week – in honor of being “Busted”

Read a passage in the Bible that you don’t understand with your spouse and ask them for insight or ideas.
Share something with your spouse that you don’t understand about them and reaffirm your commitment and love
Play cops and robbers in bed!!!

by Ruth Buezis February 25, 2016

LIVE THE SONG – MINE TO GIVE

Song of Songs 8:10-12

She

¹⁰I am a wall,
    and my breasts are like towers.
Thus I have become in his eyes
    like one bringing contentment.
¹¹Solomon had a vineyard in Baal Hamon;
    he let out his vineyard to tenants.
Each was to bring for its fruit
    a thousand shekels of silver.
¹²But my own vineyard is mine to give;
    the thousand shekels are for you, Solomon,
    and two hundred are for those who tend its fruit.

But my own vineyard is mine to give.

The other night I was teaching Awaken Love MEN’S EDITION Week 3 which is all about how a woman’s body works. Midway thru the night, I asked the men, “Can you make your wife have an orgasm?”

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by Ruth Buezis December 24, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – WHAT SHALL WE DO?

Song of Songs

Friends

⁸We have a little sister,
and her breasts are not yet grown.
What shall we do for our sister
on the day she is spoken for?

⁹If she is a wall,
we will build towers of silver on her.
If she is a door,
we will enclose her with panels of cedar.

What shall we do for our sister?

If she protects herself, we will reward her.

If she is loose, we will build walls around her – to help protect her.

These friends were actively involved in helping their sister stay pure.

In this day and age, odds are stacked against people staying pure until marriage. Pornography is rampant, casual encounters are the norm, and remaining pure is just plain crazy. We live in a society that is about instant gratification and getting what you want. The average age for girls to marry is now 27, and that is a long time to wait.

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by Ruth Buezis December 17, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – LOVE IS

Song of Songs 8:5-7

Friends

⁵Who is this coming up from the wilderness
leaning on her beloved?

She

Under the apple tree I roused you;
    there your mother conceived you,
    there she who was in labor gave you birth.
⁶Place me like a seal over your heart,
    like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
    its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
    like a mighty flame.
⁷Many waters cannot quench love;
    rivers cannot sweep it away.
If one were to give
    all the wealth of one’s house for love,
    it would be utterly scorned.

Love Is….

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by Ruth Buezis December 10, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – EMBRACE ME

Song of Songs 8:2-4

She

²I would lead you
  and bring you to my mother’s house—
    she who has taught me.
I would give you spiced wine to drink,
    the nectar of my pomegranates.
³His left arm is under my head
    and his right arm embraces me.
⁴Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you:
    Do not arouse or awaken love
    until it so desires.

His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me.

How many different positions does your husband embrace you during sex?

How many ways does he hold you while he strokes your most intimate parts?

How many ways do you connect while he works magic with his hands?

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by Ruth Buezis December 3, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – I WOULD KISS YOU

Song of Songs 8:1

She

8 If only you were to me like a brother,
    who was nursed at my mother’s breasts!
Then, if I found you outside,
    I would kiss you,
    and no one would despise me.

At first glance, this passage may sound strange, but is quite simple. At the time this was written, public displays of affection were prohibited between husband and wife. She is simply wishing that she could be more open with when and how she is allowed to kiss her husband.

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by Ruth Buezis November 26, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – EVERY DELICACY

Song of Songs 7:13

She

³The mandrakes send out their fragrance,

and at our door is every delicacy,
both new and old,
that I have stored up for you, my beloved.

Is every delicacy at your door – both new and old.

Having a great sex life is a journey. It is a journey of discovering how our bodies work and how our spouses bodies work. It is a process of building trust and getting comfortable enough to communicate our desires and being bold enough to share our passion. It is a journey of recognizing baggage that has affected us, asking for God’s help in dealing with it and claiming His redemption in our life. It is a lifetime of exploring each other and mining the deepest parts of our lover.

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by Ruth Buezis November 19, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – TO THE COUNTRYSIDE

Song of Songs 7:11-12

She

¹¹Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,
    let us spend the night in the villages.^[^p^]
¹²Let us go early to the vineyards
    to see if the vines have budded,
if their blossoms have opened,
    and if the pomegranates are in bloom—
    there I will give you my love.

Let us go to the countryside

I love having sex in other locations, but it hasn’t always been that way.

Our family lives in California so we often travel for a week to visit. I used to fret and worry. Would someone hear us? Would they guess if we came down stairs late or slipped away in the middle of the day? Would we mess up the sheets? Sex rarely happened.

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by Ruth Buezis November 12, 2015

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