I have a confession to make. …

Last year as I was writing the LIVE THE SONG series, I got to  Song of Songs 6:10-12, and I totally came up empty. I had nothing. I had no idea what it meant and how to apply it so…

I left it out. I just skipped it and figured that no one would notice. But a few months later I got this email….

Hi Ruth
I have loved every one of your posts featuring Song of Songs and have read them many times over. Sad when I got the last one. I seem to be missing 6:10-12.
I have searched your blog several times and can’t seem to locate it.
Was this published? Help!
Thanks so much.

My first reaction was – how awesome that someone was actually reading Live the Song.

My second thought was – How embarrassing – Now I have to admit that I skipped a section.

So here is my best attempt…

Song of Songs 6:10-12


10 Who is this that appears like the dawn,
    fair as the moon, bright as the sun,
    majestic as the stars in procession?


11 I went down to the grove of nut trees
    to look at the new growth in the valley,
to see if the vines had budded
    or the pomegranates were in bloom.
12 Before I realized it,
    my desire set me among the royal chariots of my people.

I have to be honest…. I’m still not sure what to do with it. Sometimes when I read the Bible, I immediately know what it means. Other times, I chew on it for a while, or wrestle with it, and God gives me what I need. But sometimes, there are passages that I never  understand. They are a mystery – and that’s ok. God is way beyond my comprehension and reality, and I will never understand everything about what He does or how He works.

Just because I cannot make sense of every detail of the Bible,  I can make sense of part of it and I hold onto it. Don’t give up on God because you don’t understand everything about Him – ground yourself in what you do know…

  • He loves you
  • He is good
  • He is powerful
  • He is just
  • He redeems us
  • He is all knowing and we are not

Don’t give up on Song of Songs because parts of it are confusing. Take what speaks to you and put it into action. There are pictures of what intimacy looks like that are timeless.

  • The role of husband and wife in the marriage bed should be as equals
  • Stretch in using your words to express your love
  • Use all 5 of your senses to experience each other
  • Be creative and plan adventure
  • Insecurities of body image and feeling loved are a battle for women
  • Husbands adoring eyes and words build their wife’s confidence
  • God blesses our marriages and our marriage bed

Don’t give up on your spouse because you do not understand everything about them. Ground your self in what you do know…

  • God has made the two of you into one
  • Your spouse is broken just like you are
  • Your spouse cannot meet all your needs
  • Your spouse needs grace and love and encouragement to be the man or woman that God created them to be

So this week – in honor of being “Busted” 

  1. Read a passage in the Bible that you don’t understand with your spouse and ask them for insight or ideas.
  2. Share something with your spouse that you don’t understand about them and reaffirm your commitment and love
  3. Play cops and robbers in bed!!!

Ruth Buezis



Song of Songs 2:16-17


16 My beloved is mine and I am his;
    he browses among the lilies.
17 Until the day breaks
    and the shadows flee,
turn, my beloved,
    and be like a gazelle
or like a young stag
    on the rugged hills.[g]

My beloved is mine and I am his: he browses among the lilies. Until the day breaks and the shadows flee….

The most common time that couples have sex is 11:00 at night – probably one of the worst times. It is when our bodies are exhausted, and our brains over stimulated processing what happened throughout the day.

We need to have sex other times of the day, and one of the best is first thing in the morning. If we have been cuddling all night long, our bodies will be warmed up. Hopefully our brains have not sprung back into action thinking about the schedule for the day yet.  Our husbands testosterone levels are at their highest and our bodies are rested.

So this week –

1. Have sex in the morning.

LIVE THE SONG – Stare at me

Song of Songs 1:5-7


How right they are to adore you!

Dark am I, yet lovely,
    daughters of Jerusalem,
dark like the tents of Kedar,
    like the tent curtains of Solomon.[c]
Do not stare at me because I am dark,
    because I am darkened by the sun.
My mother’s sons were angry with me
    and made me take care of the vineyards;
    my own vineyard I had to neglect.
Tell me, you whom I love,
    where you graze your flock
    and where you rest your sheep at midday.
Why should I be like a veiled woman
    beside the flocks of your friends

Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun.

It kind of jumps out at you, doesn’t it?



You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride;

you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes.” Song of Songs 4:9

The eyes – such a powerful way to connect and to communicate. Over and over in Song of Songs the eyes are a point of connection.

This weeks mission is a hard one. It will take sacrifice and determination, and yet will take us back to where we need to be.

Make a commitment with your husband to turn off the screens for 12 hours every day, 8 pm to 8 am, for a week. That includes tv, computer, smart phone and anything else you can think of. With the screens off, spend the time making eye contact – play games, talk, work on projects, dance, have sex.

Let me know how it goes by commenting below

It Begins with a Kiss

Song of Songs 1:2 Let him smother me with kisses from his mouth, for your love is better than wine.

It begins with a kiss.

I was talking to my husband the other day about kissing. You know there are times when he is kissing me and it’s nice and all, but I have this feeling that he is not completely there. And there are other times, when all I can say is “wow”. It just kind of takes my breath away. Those times when he knows I am sad or upset or just needs some extra loving, he can kiss me and every thing just melts away. It is as if he has lifted the smudge from my body and my mind and it makes everything better.

So what is different? He is in tune to me and what I am going through. He is totally focused on me. He lingers long enough until he can tell he has made a difference. It begins with a kiss.

Your mission this week is to kiss your husband like you mean it. Linger a little longer, tune into him and transport him to another place. It will make a world of difference