Ruth Buezis

Another Adjustment

by Ruth Buezis
April 7, 2015September 22, 2016

Tomorrow I am having a simple surgical procedure to remove scar tissue from my vagina. The scar formed years ago in an area that was stitched up during childbirth. The scar didn’t really bother me until the last few years when menopause caused the thinning of tissue in my vagina. The ridge of scar tissue gradually become more raised and irritated the entire right side of my vulva. At times I experienced a dull ache and other times it was a sharp pain like an exposed nerve. My doctor explained that because the tissue and nerves are so intertwined in that area of our body, a small area of irritation can make the nerves and tissue of the whole area fire up.

The change – Hysterectomy

by Ruth Buezis
April 1, 2015September 22, 2016

My doctor could tell I was anemic before she even tested me. Unaware of the result of a gradual worsening of my periods, feeling tired and slow became my norm. I will never forget the day that I ended up in the hospital because of a flow that literally poured out of me. Of course by the time I was seen, the flow had slowed to manageable. This was the start of my initiation into peri-menopause, that cursed period of life when you have no control over your own body.

How to Help Your Wife Orgasm During Intercourse

by Ruth Buezis
March 30, 2015September 13, 2021
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It takes two to tango – and it takes two to work towards having an orgasm during intercourse. My husband was a huge part of my learning to have an orgasm during intercourse. He gave me permission and encouraged me to take control of the movement so that I could figure out what felt good. His increased control of ejaculation allowed me plenty of time to experiment. He learned my orgasm triggers so that he could use them at just the right time. Most importantly, he made sure that I was never left hanging after intercourse so that every experience was positive. A sensitive, caring husband can make intercourse enjoyable whether their wife orgasms or not.

Although this article could be helpful for anyone, it is part of a series “How to have an orgasm during intercourse”. If you are working towards that goal, please make sure that you read my previous articles The Big Question, His and Her Kegels ,Talk about What?,Flexibility Training,and Different Pathways

New Series – Age Adjustments

by Ruth Buezis
March 24, 2015September 22, 2016
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I am starting a new series on Wednesdays called Age Adjustment to address some of the adjustments that we make as we age, both men… Read More »New Series – Age Adjustments

DIFFERENT PATHWAYS

by Ruth Buezis
March 23, 2015September 13, 2021
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One of my favorite secular sex books is “Orgasms: how to have them, give them and keep them coming”by Lou Paget. I love her books because she does not try to define what women experience by scientifically studying them. Instead, she writes what thousands of women have shared about their sexual experiences. In her book she states woman have experienced at least 10 different pathways to orgasm. Pretty remarkable if you ask me.

Please don’t think that I am pressuring women to once again perform. I simply want to encourage women to enjoy their experiences while remaining open to new possibilities. God gave us amazing bodies with unlimited potential for enjoyment.

It is important to understand the 3 main pathways of stimulation that women take to experience an orgasm during intercourse – clitoral, G-spot and deep spot. Understanding these pathways will help you recognize positions that may provide the kind of stimulation leading to orgasm during intercourse. Recognizing how the different orgasms feel as they approach will help you cue into the pleasure and go after it. What I write is based on my own experiences, the experiences of women that have shared during class, and lots of reading.

LIVE THE SONG – Come with me.

by Ruth Buezis
March 18, 2015September 22, 2016

Song of Songs 2:10- 13

She

¹⁰My beloved spoke and said to me,
    “Arise, my darling,
    my beautiful one, come with me.
¹¹See! The winter is past;
    the rains are over and gone.
¹²Flowers appear on the earth;
    the season of singing has come,
the cooing of doves
    is heard in our land.
¹³The fig tree forms its early fruit;
    the blossoming vines spread their
fragrance.

Arise, come, my darling;
my beautiful one, come with me.”

Winter is past and Spring is on it’s way.

CRAVE your husband

by Ruth Buezis
March 15, 2015September 22, 2016
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My husband and I have always had a good marriage, and once we got things figured out, our sex life was good – but it… Read More »CRAVE your husband

LIVE THE SONG- Look! Here he comes…

by Ruth Buezis
March 11, 2015September 22, 2016

Song of Songs 2:8-9

She
8 Listen! My beloved!
Look! Here he comes,
leaping across the mountains,
bounding over the hills.
9 My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag.
Look! There he stands behind our wall,
gazing through the windows,
peering through the lattice.

Look!

Do we look at our husbands? Do we look at our husbands bodies? Do we look at how they move?

Flexibility Training for Orgasms

by Ruth Buezis
March 8, 2015September 13, 2021
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God created women with amazing minds and bodies that can learn how to respond sexually in countless ways. To work towards having an orgasm during intercourse, we need to become more flexible in how and what we respond to.

Learned Response

Just like playing different songs on the piano takes practice, so does responding sexually. If you practiced chop sticks an hour every day for a year, you would get very good at chop sticks, but you would struggle to play any other song. To play piano well you must practice different scales, different songs and at different tempos. Eventually piano players can become so proficient that they no longer depend on the music, but can play freely from memory, or ear.

Orgasm is a learned response to what our body finds enjoyable. The first time we experience something, our body may not recognize it as something that enjoyable. As we anticipate good things and we build positive experiences, our body responds accordingly.

LIVE THE SONG – Embrace Me

by Ruth Buezis
March 4, 2015September 22, 2016

Song of Songs 2:6-7

She

⁶His left arm is under my head,
    and his right arm embraces me.
⁷Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you
    by the gazelles and by the does of the field:
Do not arouse or awaken love
    until it so desires.

His right arm embraces me.

How our husband embraces us can set the tone for sex.

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