Men love oral sex but I think their enjoyment is amplified multiple times when we enjoy it too – and I don’t just mean because we like to give them oral sex. I mean we enjoy it – like it turns us on and it arouses us. When we can orgasm while giving them oral sex – well that might just be one of their ultimate enjoyments. So how do we get to the place that we not only love giving oral sex, but that we find giving oral sex arousing?
If you want ideas on giving your husband oral sex, then please take a look at my articles How to Drive Your Man Crazy, How to Love Your Husband with Oral Sex and His Amazing Body.
This article is going to focus on how to get aroused while giving your husband oral sex.
Our Mind
It always begins in the mind, doesn’t it ladies. We have to believe that visually feasting on our husband close up, sensing the changes in his body through sensitive tongues or lips, and loving him with our entire body is so very good. Our husband does not just want oral sex because he saw it somewhere, but that loving him through oral sex is an intimate connection that somehow makes him feel loved as we show our full acceptance and embodiment of him. We have to believe that God gives us the freedom to fully enjoy each other, however we want, and that he is pleased when we receive the gifts he gave us to intimately connect.
Connection
Sex is not just supposed to be two parallel people getting satisfied to the point of orgasm. Sex is supposed to be a window to see into each other’s souls in the most intimate way. We have to intentionally maintain connection during sex rather than going into our own world. Keeping your eyes open, or speaking short phrases to draw each other back can help maintain the connection. Seeing my husband experience pleasure as he watches what I create for him ought to excite me. He is letting me into his inner places and sharing intimate parts of himself. Are you maintaining connection during oral sex? Does it excite you when he shows you his excitement?
Training
One of the foundational things I believe about sex is that our bodies can learn new things. We can teach our bodies through positive reinforcement and connections with pleasure. We must connect arousal and pleasure with giving our husband oral sex. While you are giving your husband oral sex, you might grab his hands and bring them to your breasts. You could change your position and bring his fingers to your clitoris. Little by little begin to associate pleasure with giving oral sex.
Movement
One the things that I am becoming aware of is the power of movement to take us places. While you are giving your husband oral sex, let your body move like it wants to. Just the thrusting of your hips can create arousal. Or try straddling his leg and rubbing your body on him. Or take a break with your mouth and drag your breast on his penis to create enjoyment. Get into a rhythm that takes you somewhere through movement and sync it to the movement that drives him crazy.
Aids
Using toys during oral sex can create the stimulation to take you over the top while you pleasure him with oral sex. You will realize how much your arousal excites your husband and that is exciting. When you are connected, his excitement will feed on your excitement which will in turn feed your excitement.
Giving our husband oral sex is supposed to be this amazing way that we connect, close up and personal. It ought to excite us as we see just how amazing our husbands body is and how excited he gets. Do we allow ourselves to really enjoy just how erotic giving oral sex can be? Does our excitement feed off of their excitement? Do we seek pleasure and enjoyment and go after it, even in the midst of loving our husband? Consider what a thrill it would be for your husband to see your thrill in the midst of loving him.
The Author
These are great insights Ruth. The mind is so very important here and in other aspects of emotional and sexual intimacy. (We recommend in our posts on oral sex that the wife consciously cultivate a positive mental attitude towards giving her husband oral love.) The mind is so powerful that once she feels that real connection to and with her husband as she is giving oral sex (by being present in each moment with him), it is quite easy for the wife to become aroused. As well, her mouth, tongue and lips are very sensuous parts of her own body and are filled with numerous nerve endings. Many wives enjoy the sensations they experience while loving their husband’s body.
For the husband, it makes a world of difference when his wife enjoys the oral sex, truly connects with him and becomes aroused while giving it. The delightful difference for him is the emotional gratification (the acceptance, the trust, the shared vulnerability).
Thank you for this posting Ruth! Yes, absolutely me using a toy or my husband using one on me sure does enhance the excitement! I love having an orgasm while performing OS on my hubby. The visual for my husband while I am doing OS and pleasuring myself helps my husband have one too.