The mission of Awaken Love is to encourage men and women to claim God’s design for sex and equip them to share the truth with others.
It is not your typical mission, even in the area of married sexuality. I don’t just feel called to improve marriages. I want to equip Christians to talk about sex so that they impact the world around them. When we learn to talk about sex with other Christians, we change the culture of sex in the church. Personal transformation not only benefits the individual but ripples to impact kids, spouse, families, friends and others. And the best way to equip Christians to talk about sex, is by actually doing it.
Awaken Love Classes
In Awaken Love classes we create safe places to be honest, talk about sex, and connect with God. By focusing on ourselves, learning from our past, and leaning into God’s truth, we begin to move forward . And as we share with each other, we start to feel the release of shame that we had attached to sex. People both experience personal transformation and witness the growth of others that can happen in community. Talking about sex has a profound impact on embracing healthy ideas and attitudes about sex and empowers men and women to use their sexuality as a powerful way to connect in marriage.
10 Year Anniversary
On April 4, 2022, I celebrated 10 years of teaching Awaken Love. What started 10 years ago when I shared with 8 friends on my porch, has grown, and rippled to impact thousands around the world. .
Since 2017, when I released the Awaken Love video classes, over 100 different women have led classes in Alaska, Alabama, California, Colorado, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Iowa, Louisiana, Michigan, Minnesota, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, Washington and Wisconsin, New Zealand, Ontario, Albania and Kenya, and more.
I am so thankful for the women and men that have led classes and joined me in the battle to take sex back from the world. Their courage to talk about sex has helped so many people and the impact continues to ripple to impact their kids and countless friends. They have planted seeds and God continues to multiply their efforts.
Over the last 10 years, over 2300 women, and 250 men have participated in Awaken Love classes, and that is crazy.
Moving Forward
Like most of you, I’ve gone through some hard things over the last 2 years, and I really began to question whether I could continue with Awaken Love. No matter how much I did, I felt like a failure, but if I quit I would still feel like a failure. I am learning to let go of my inner critic, my perfectionism, and stop basing my worth on what I accomplish. And I finally landed in this sweet spot with the Lord.
No matter what I do with Awaken Love – God has given me a heart for marriage, and for sexuality.
And regardless of what I do with Awaken Love, God loves me.
So this April, I tip toed back into ministry by teaching an in person class on my porch with 12 women. It was a wild class, with strong outspoken women that were hurting and looking for answers. And God met us in the midst of it, with women ministering to each other and creating this amazing space to be open and honest for the first time in their life. They all experienced growth and took steps by faith, trusting that God will change things. One woman experienced a miracle and started having sex with her husband for the first time in years.
It felt so good to be teaching again in person, and I am dreaming again about the impossible things that only God can do.
My Focus
My mission remains the same, to encourage men and women to claim God’s design for sex and equip them to share the truth with others.
So my energy will focus on cultivating a community of leaders and teachers that will fearlessly open up the conversation of sex in their circles of influence. Some of my goals for the fall are…
- Quarterly Online Meetings to Equip Facilitators or Future Facilitators
- Monthly One Hour Online Teachings to Dig Deeper into specific topics
- Regular Online office hours to allow facilitators, or those thinking about facilitating to ask questions
- One on One’s with Ruth, available for a small charge for those that need extra help even after taking class.
So I praise God for what He has done over the last 10 years, and I ask for His favor moving forward. May God raise up an army!
The Author
I loved reading this!!! I’m so glad the Lord is continuing to use you in the battle field of marriage. What the enemy is trying to destroy you are on the front lines leading us on to victory. I’m so thankful for you and your ministry and would love to become a facilitator this fall – I just have to figure out how to do that with my 7 kids always running around ?
Thanks! Sounds like you are a busy woman, but understand how many women need help in this area. Praying that God opens doors for you to step into your desires.
Congratulations Ruth! Happy anniversary and well done for keeping going all these years, for sharing your journey with us all and for making a difference in so many marriages over the years.
I would really love to be involved in helping couples get closer once we’re a bit further on our journey. I’ve so appreciated your articles and example.
Thank you and God bless you.
Thank you for stepping out in faith. I wish I had found this 10 yrs ago or 29 years ago. I wasted so much time not having sex with my husband bcs I felt ashamed of my past. I didn’t think God would love me if I was sexual. We’ve been married 29 yrs now. I finally feel like I have desire for him, and he has no interest in me. He’s got health issues now due to 20+ yrs of diabetes. I feel like a roommate more than a wife. But Thank you for helping all of us. Men and women. You truly have helped me see that I don’t have to be ashamed because I want to have sex with my husband. That is exactly what God designed for a married couple.
Thank you.
Wanda, Thank you for sharing part of your story. I just want to encourage you to have compassion both for yourself and the past, and for your husband in the present. And don’t give up, God can perform miracles. Though sex may never be like it might have been when you were young, it can still be amazing as we age. One of my favorite books for working through challenges with aging is All Night Long: How to Make Love to a Man Over 50 by Barbara Keesling. The best might be yet to come.