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Comfort SEX

I never thought that I would reach for my husband when I felt sad, stressed or overwhelmed. Things have drastically changed. Finding comfort through sex has been one of the most surprising results of figuring out this thing called SEX.

In Awaken-Love classes we talk about all the reasons that God created sex. The book Intimate Issues shares that one of the reasons is for comfort. After David and Bathsheba lost their child in 2 Samuel 12:24 it says, “Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and lay with her.”

In class, I often ask if any of the women can relate to sex as a comfort. Often I hear about women comforting a husband because of a bad day at work, a job loss, or even a death in the family. We tend to think about sex being a comfort for men. Remember, this was David comforting Bathsheba, not Bathsheba comforting David. God intended sex to comfort wives, too.

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Long Distance Connection

I used to hate when my husband traveled for work. My normal stance was to make sure the house was kept in order, the kids were taken care of and to treat my husband as if I was the ice queen. Phone conversations were limited to mundane details and I created a giant protective wall that would take days for my husband to gently disassemble when he got home.

I have since learned that times of physical separation can be an opportunity for fun and growth in expressing intimacy other ways besides skin to skin, sex in the same bed. It forces us to sharpen our other senses beside touch – things like smell, sight, and sound. It stretches us in using our words to connect – emotionally, spiritually, and even physically. We can heighten anticipation to create passionate reunions that are hot and spicy, or we can use technology to communicate and enjoy each other in a whole new way. So whether you are separated for a week or months, hang on tight as I share some ideas to

CONNECT – LONG DISTANCE

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Tips for conversations with your kids about sex

 

Every kid is different, every family is different, every experience is different and I do not don’t have all the answers,  but below are 10 tips for conversations with your kids about SEX.

If you did not read Mondays post – Conversations with your kids – please read it now. 

Affirm

Start every conversation by affirming them. You could affirm a young child for his natural curiosity. An older child might be affirmed for his honesty in sharing his struggles. Kids even need to be affirmed that God made them sexual beings and that it is a good thing, even when it seems challenging to live in God’s boundaries.

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Conversations with your kids about sex

One of the questions I ask when I teach Awaken-Love is “How did you first learn about sex? Not just how babies are made, but sex?”

Some of the more common answers I hear are:

  • On the bus
  • From friends
  • From romance movies, books or magazines
  • My mom handed me a book
  • My parents sat me down for an awkward talk

conversations-with-kidsBut every once in a while – a woman shares that even though she doesn’t remember a specific talk, she knew that her parents thoroughly enjoyed sex and it was a great part of their marriage. Conversation about bodies and sex were open. Nothing felt embarrassing, dirty, or secretive. There was no talk, just conversation.

These same women were confident enough to remain pure, even though many of them dated their future husband for years. And these same women, easily transitioned to figuring out sex and thoroughly enjoying it within marriage.

Talking to our kids about sex is important . But more importantly we must figure out sex for ourselves. We cannot talk to our kids about how awesome sex is within marriage, if it is not awesome for us.

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WANT TO HAVE FUN – Week 2

I have had a lot of great sex in 28 years of marriage but the memories that stick in my head are the times when my husband planned something special. He did not have to spend a lot of money or time – sometimes it was as simple as him starting a fire and spreading a blanket on the floor. But I knew my husband was thinking of me. 

Men, step up and make some memories with your wife. This weeks date is about as simple as it gets…

Date number 2 is for husbands to plan.

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LIVE THE SONG – WHAT SHALL WE DO?

Song of Songs 

Friends

We have a little sister,
    and her breasts are not yet grown.
What shall we do for our sister
    on the day she is spoken for? 

If she is a wall,
    we will build towers of silver on her.
If she is a door,
    we will enclose her with panels of cedar.

What shall we do for our sister?

If she protects herself, we will reward her.

If she is loose, we will build walls around her – to help protect her.

These friends were actively involved in helping their sister stay pure.

In this day and age, odds are stacked against people staying pure until marriage. Pornography is rampant, casual encounters are the norm, and remaining pure is just plain crazy. We live in a society that is about instant gratification and getting what you want. The average age for girls to marry is now 27, and that is a long time to wait.

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25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask + Giveaway

Slattery BookI am a big fan of Dr. Juli Slattery because she does not shy away from God’s truth. Melanie and I were given the opportunity to review her new book, 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex and Intimacy.  So here goes, our first official book review!

Juli’s book gracefully answers 25 of the most common questions she is asked as she travels around discipling women to reclaim God’s design for sexuality and intimacy.  Juli is a wife, a mom, a clinical psychologist, an author, host of the Java with Juli podcast and co-founder of the Authentic Intimacy ministry.  She knows her stuff!

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LIVE THE SONG – LOVE IS

Song of Songs 8:5-7

Friends

Who is this coming up from the wilderness
    leaning on her beloved?

She

Under the apple tree I roused you;
    there your mother conceived you,
    there she who was in labor gave you birth.
Place me like a seal over your heart,
    like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
    its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
    like a mighty flame.
Many waters cannot quench love;
    rivers cannot sweep it away.
If one were to give
    all the wealth of one’s house for love,
    it would be utterly scorned.

 

Love Is….

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