LIVE THE SONG – YOUR EYES OVERWHELM ME

Song of Songs 6:4-5

⁴You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my darling,
as lovely as Jerusalem,
as majestic as troops with banners.
⁵Turn your eyes from me;
they overwhelm me.

Turn your eyes from me; they overwhelm me.

Do we realize how powerful the eyes are?

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by Ruth Buezis October 1, 2015

BACK FROM VACATION

After 2 weeks of traveling around Copenhagen, Norway and Iceland with my husband and parents, I am getting back in the saddle and writing. So let’s just put a few thoughts out there….

I love vacation! Seeing the world with my husband and holding hands as we walk the cobblestone streets. I love taking a day off and ordering room service and not exiting our room until noon. I love dressing up for my husband and watching his jaw drop. It is so fun to have sex in different beds, in different rooms with different views. I love waking in the middle of the night because we have not adjusted to the time zone, rolling right into great sex and then back to sleep. Vacations are great!!

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by Ruth Buezis September 8, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – BRAGGING RIGHTS

Song of Songs 5:9

Friends

⁹How is your beloved better than others,
most beautiful of women?
How is your beloved better than others,
that you so charge us?

Do your brag about your husband? Do you brag when he helps a friend move, when you wish he had stayed home with you? Do you brag when he takes you out on a date, even though it might not have been exactly what you had in mind? Do you brag about how he plays with the kids even when the toys may not get cleaned up afterward? We need to catch what our husbands do right. What they haven’t quite mastered does not negate all that they do right. They are a work in process just like we are. If a wife were to ask me how to influence her husband to grow, I would say there is no better way than to Encourage, Encourage, Encourage. Brag on your husband!!!

This Week –

Catch your husband in what he does right and affirm he in that without mentioning in the slightest bit what else you would like.
Brag on your husband to someone else in front of him.
Write your husband a note telling him at least 10 things that he does that makes you feel loved.

by Ruth Buezis August 20, 2015

NEW DIRECTIONS

Last week I flew to Texas for five amazing days. God has rocked my world and given me a new partner in ministry, Melanie Lloyd. He has shifted my focus and redirected my energy to equipping other women to teach. God has affirmed my calling to share His truth about sex. I am so excited my head is spinning with ideas and I have a smile that won’t go away.

Visiting Melanie

My trip started in Austin with a visit to Melanie. At the last minute, I had decided to pack my journal because I thought sharing it might be a great way for Melanie to know me and my journey. When she picked me up at the airport, I felt a little embarrassed but when I told her, she just lit up in laughter.” I brought my journal with me today too, I don’t know why”. Just another confirmation from God that He wants us to partner.

Saturday morning we woke early to head to church for the women’s event. Her church had arranged a time to share with the women about intimacy since they will be offering Awaken Love this fall. Originally they thought about 40 women would attend. Then the numbers grew to 65, and then 95. Saturday morning 150 women arrived.

Speaking

I have never spoken to close to that many women and never imagined that I would. Feeling strangely calm we prayed and prepared.

God had given me two specific directions for the morning.

Use razor sharp words with no extra distractions.
Encourage women to take off their filthy rags.

I am not sure that I have ever felt so free during a talk to really connect with those listening. I remember at one point seeing a woman with tears streaming down her face and feeling that God was speaking directly to her.

After the talk the women broke into groups of 2-3 women and dug deep as they shared about their own marriage. Women shed tears, laid hands and prayed. As we came back together I shared about Awaken Love and then fielded question. We really can respectfully talk about sex out loud in church. That night 50 women signed up as interested in taking the class and Melanie’s church was left wondering what to do.

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by Ruth Buezis August 10, 2015

Naked

There is Nothing easy about getting Naked
I have gotten naked more times in the last 5 years of my life than I have in the previous 45 years. I got naked when I worked through difficult topics in my marriage bed in order to communicate my needs. I got naked when I fully opened myself up to praying with my husband. I got naked as I shared my testimony before baptism with my entire congregation. I got naked when I nervously told a dear friend that God was calling me to share what I had learned about sex. I got naked when I taught my first class on sex and trembled in fear. And today, I will get naked as I participate in Shannon Ethridge’s Women at the Well workshop in Texas. I will spend 4 days unpacking my emotional and sexual baggage with 8 other women in order to experience healing and freedom in my life. Ultimately I am going so that I can bring back tools to help other women, but I know that the journey will be very personal.

I have also shed more tears and relied on God more than I ever have in my life. Getting naked is like hanging out on this cliff, and all you can do is cry out to God. All you can do is ask God to work through you. All you can do is hang on tight, because He is going to take you for this awesome ride that you could never have imagined. You keep your eyes on Him like Peter did when he was walking on water, and the minute doubt enters, you begin to sink.
God created me with a deep desire to be in relationship because I have been molded like Him. I want to be known. I want to be known by God, I want to be known by husband, I want to be known by friends. It’s not that it is easy. I am human and so is my husband and friends. We mess up all the time, and we do things that hurt each other. But I still want to be known. I would rather experience the pain of being known than live in an insulated world of walls.
I love to share what God is doing in my life. I love to pray for friends. I love to lie naked next to my husband, fully known, completely exposed.
God works wonders through our nakedness. In John 13 Jesus washed His disciple’s feet, but before He did, He took off his clothing and wrapped a towel around His waist. Jesus got naked before He washed them. We need to get naked before we serve others. We need to be real and unraveled and then God can really work through us.

So don’t let fear stop you from getting naked once in a while. God does His greatest work through our weakness.

Blessings, Ruth

by Ruth Buezis August 2, 2015

Menopause – Sex Whenever I Want

One of the big pluses of having a hysterectomy or making it through menopause is the absence of my monthly friend. No more period to show up just as I am headed out for a week in the boundary waters. The flow of money for buying tampons and pads finally comes to a screeching halt. New pretty panties no longer end up covered in stains. And, I can have sex whenever I want, 365 days a year.

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by Ruth Buezis July 28, 2015

COCONUT OIL – A Great Personal Lubrication

Coconut Oil – I love everything

about it !!!

I love to use it on my husband. I lube him up – his penis, his testicles, his perineum, all around the area – and it makes my hands glide silky smooth over him. Whether I am enjoying him with my hands, mouth, breasts or any other part of my body, a little bit of coconut oil makes

it a whole lot nicer.

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by Ruth Buezis July 22, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – COME ON BABY, LET’S GET IT ON

Song of Songs 4:16

She

¹⁶Awake, north wind,
    and come, south wind!
Blow on my garden,
    that its fragrance may spread everywhere.
Let my beloved come into his garden
    and taste its choice fruits.

In other words, “Come on baby, let’s get it on.”

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by Ruth Buezis July 15, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – A SPRING ENCLOSED

Song of Songs 4:11-15

Him

The fragrance of your garments

is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
¹²You are a garden locked up, my sister, my bride;
    you are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain.
¹³Your plants are an orchard of pomegranates
    with choice fruits,
    with henna and nard,
¹⁴    nard and saffron,
    calamus and cinnamon,
    with every kind of incense tree,
    with myrrh and aloes
    and all the finest spices.
¹⁵You are^[^j^] a garden fountain,
    a well of flowing water
    streaming down from Lebanon.

You are a spring enclosed, a sealed fountain….

A well of flowing water, streaming down from Lebanon….

Do you think of sex as a way to be refreshed – and a way to refresh your husband.

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by Ruth Buezis June 24, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – YOUR LIPS

Song of Songs 4:1-4

4 How beautiful you are, my darling!
Oh, how beautiful!
Your eyes behind your veil are doves.
Your hair is like a flock of goats

descending from the hills of Gilead.

²Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn,

coming up from the washing.

Each has its twin;
    not one of them is alone.
³Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon;
    your mouth is lovely.
Your temples behind your veil
    are like the halves of a pomegranate.
⁴Your neck is like the tower of David,
    built with courses of stone^[i];
on it hang a thousand shields,
    all of them shields of warriors.
Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon.

I kiss with my lips. I speak with my lips. I eat with my lips. But I don’t know if I think of my lips as a way to entice my husband.

When I was young, I remember my mom always putting on lip stick before we went out. It was this instant change to who she was and how she felt.

I am more of a chapstick girl. Really my entire family is pretty much addicted to it. We don’t leave home with out a stick in our pocket.

But maybe I need to think of using my lips as a way to transform from mom, to WOMAN. Maybe I need to pick up a few different colors of lipstick to provide an instant change in what mood is set in my marriage bed. Some bright red for classic elegance and sophistication, some wet luscious pink for playfulness and how about black? I wonder what that would do?

This week –

1. Try putting on lipstick to set the mood in bed.

2. Try to flirt with your husband by simply using your lips.

by Ruth Buezis May 15, 2015

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