LIVE THE SONG – I WOULD KISS YOU

Song of Songs 8:1

She

8 If only you were to me like a brother,
    who was nursed at my mother’s breasts!
Then, if I found you outside,
    I would kiss you,
    and no one would despise me.

At first glance, this passage may sound strange, but is quite simple. At the time this was written, public displays of affection were prohibited between husband and wife. She is simply wishing that she could be more open with when and how she is allowed to kiss her husband.

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by Ruth Buezis November 26, 2015

Your Husband’s Perineum – New Territory to Explore

The Perineum, commonly called the taint is the territory between his testicles and his anus. It may be an area where a husband is very aware of the possibilities of pleasure or has absolutely no clue what he is missing out on. It is our privilege to help him discover just how amazing his body is.

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by Ruth Buezis November 23, 2015

Testicles – What in the World do I do with These?

I have to admit, out of all the areas of my husband’s body, the testicles are probably one of the most confusing and mysterious to me. I was really never quite sure what I was supposed to do with them. But lately I feel like I am getting a little more of a handle on it. So, I thought I would share what I have discovered.

First, in order to have full access and enjoy the experience, your husband should be freshly bathed. It would also be really helpful if he does a little grooming in that area. He could simply use a hair clipper to trim – think ¼ to ½ inches long – or he could carefully trim the hair with scissors.

Song of Songs 7:13 – And the finest fruits are at our door, new delights as well as old.

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by Ruth Buezis November 16, 2015

HIS AMAZING BODY – The Penis

The more I get to know my husband’s body , the more I find it absolutely AMAZING! For the next 3 weeks we are going to spend time getting to know our husband’s body and we are going to start with his penis.

Song of Songs 5:14 His body is like polished ivory
decorated with sapphires.

The penis is probably the most prominent part of our husband’s body and it is most closely associated with what it means to be a man. When it is cooperating it is their pride and joy, but when it is not, it can create anxiety that snow balls into greater anxiety. Men worry over not lasting long enough, or getting or maintaining an erection. Their erect penis is their greatest joy or their greatest defeat.

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by Ruth Buezis November 9, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – I BELONG

Song of Songs 7:9-10

She

May the wine go straight to my beloved,
flowing gently over lips and teeth.^[o]
¹⁰I belong to my beloved,
and his desire is for me.

My husband and I have been having the exact same argument for about 5 years. Well actually, it’s not even an argument. It is me getting upset at him because I start keeping score.

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by Ruth Buezis November 5, 2015

Welcome to Awaken-Love.net

I have to admit, I felt kind of lost when I clicked on christiansexclass.org and it was no longer accessible. I have been sharing there for almost two years and in a way, I left a part of myself there. Much of my writing has chronicled my personal journey, struggles and revelation about sex. I have digested what I have read, what is in alignment with God’s truth and what I have seen demonstrated to be true. I have also practiced putting words to concepts and ideas so that I can communicate them in Awaken-Love classes. Putting words to this powerful, yet sometimes indescribable, thing we call sex is not easy.

I have also made amazing connections on christiansexclass.org. Melanie found me and gathered up the courage to ask about taking a class – resulting in a ministry partnership that is absolutely God ordained. Women from California, Florida, Alabama, Arkansas, Texas, North Dakota, and even Nigeria are joining in on classes as we are still figuring out the best technology for communication. One young woman that was not even married yet, but already feels a call to minister in the area of Christian sexuality, emailed asking for a mentor. God has opened door after door…

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by Ruth Buezis October 19, 2015

DO’S AND DON’TS – To Help Your Wife Have a Sexual Awakening

More than once a husband has emailed asking the question,

“How do I help my wife to have a sexual awakening?”

We probably ought to start by talking about how I would define a sexual awakening.

SEXUAL AWAKENING – waking up to God’s truth and design for sex within marriage that leads to a freedom and desire to live in that fullness.

As with anything, you cannot change your spouse, but you can strive to be a positive influence in their life. The best thing you can do is love your wife as Christ loved the church – that mean selflessly, unconditionally, sacrificially. It is not a small challenge, but it is what God called you to do. If you are man enough to take that on – than continue reading because here are some ways to help your wife combat the stereotypes and messages that she may believe about men or sex.

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by Ruth Buezis October 12, 2015

LIVE THE SONG – UNIQUE

Song of Songs 6:5-9

Your hair is like a flock of goats
    descending from Gilead.
⁶Your teeth are like a flock of sheep
    coming up from the washing.
Each has its twin,
    not one of them is missing.
⁷Your temples behind your veil
    are like the halves of a pomegranate.
⁸Sixty queens there may be,
    and eighty concubines,
    and virgins beyond number;
⁹but my dove, my perfect one, is unique,
    the only daughter of her mother,
    the favorite of the one who bore her.
The young women saw her and called her blessed;
    the queens and concubines praised her.

u·nique yo͞oˈnēk/ adjective

being the only one of its kind; unlike anything else

I don’t know that I always think of unique as a positive thing. In my house, it is more commonly heard when people watching and the girl with the blue hair walks by, and we say, “that is unique.” It is code for “that is weird,” as if we are not being judgmental, when we really are.

But according to the definition, unique is being one of a kind. And don’t we want to be one of a kind to our husband – unlike anyone else? Don’t we feel loved when our beloved can spot us in a crowd?

Can you imagine if we were like everyone else – the same tamable hair, one size fits all body type, monotone skin with no birth marks, smile creases or freckles? How would your husband tell you apart? What would endear you to him? How would he know you? Sharing our uniqueness builds intimacy in marriage.

Psalm 139:13-14

¹³For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
¹⁴I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.

God made you exactly how He wanted you – unlike any other person in the world. He knows everything about us and He loves it. He loves my lankiness and my strong body. He loves my hazel eyes and my high cheek bones. He loves the way I think hard before I speak. He loves my battle wounds and the struggles that have made me who I am. He loves everything and it is what makes me, me.

So what makes you unique and do you appreciate it?

This Week –

Sit down and make a list of all the things that make you unique. Pray and thank God for how He made you and specifically for those attributes.
Ask your husband what makes you unique and carefully receive it as a compliment.

by Ruth Buezis October 9, 2015

TRAINING YOUR BODY TO ENJOY ANOTHER POSITION

Last week I wrote about Rear Entry positions and I want to do a follow up. I learned something along the way that I think deserves its own article. We can train our body to enjoy another position.

A Process

Learning to enjoy rear entry positions has been a process for me. Part of it has been learning to trust my husband and know that he is not just using me. We have also learned to make the position more pleasurable for me with added stimulation or movement and angle changes. I have also learned to embrace my own eroticism and what a position like doggie position can communicate. But fairly recently I stumbled on something that changed things a lot more than I thought it would.

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by Ruth Buezis October 7, 2015

REAR ENTRY

Recently I received a special request to write an article on vaginal intercourse rear entry positions so I am going to give it a whirl.

Rear entry used to be my least favorite position, but a lot of things have changed. So let me shed some light on some of the challenges of this position for women, adaptions that can make it more enjoyable, and why eventually it might be awesome.

Challenges

Anybody that has ever seen animals mate has the position of rear entry burned into their mind. This is the position that animals use when the male decides to do his thing. There is no foreplay, no kissing, no connection. He just does it. It is hard not to associate rear entry with being used and animalistic behavior.

Some wives may assume that if a husband wants to try rear entry, it is because he does not want to see her. That he is simply using her body as a receptacle. Just because you are not face to face does not mean that you cannot create a powerful connection.

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by Ruth Buezis October 5, 2015

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LIVE THE SONG – I WOULD KISS YOU

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