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Song of Songs 7:8
May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine,
Sometimes I think my husband is more interested in my breasts than in any other part of my body. They capture his eyes and entice his hands and he is fascinated by them.
But breasts are tricky. What can feel great one day can feel painful the next. Breasts change dramatically with monthly hormonal cycles, pregnancy and nursing. During high estrogen cycles like ovulation, early pregnancy or menopause adjustments, the nipples can be painfully tender.
Do you respect her desires without pouting or getting defensive? Can you tell when her nipples are sensitive or even painful? Do you treat her with tenderness and care? Do you understand when her identity is stretched as a provider of sustenance to an infant? Do you adore a part of her body that in many ways defines her femininity? Do you devour her when she wants to be devoured?
Though every woman is different, I am going to stick my neck out and try to give you some clues on ways to approach and handle your wife’s breasts.
Song of Song 7:2
2 Your navel is a rounded goblet
that never lacks blended wine.
Did you know that the vagina has the same pH as red wine?
Are you awed that a vagina can stretch enough for a baby to pass thru and can also shrink to snugly hug a man’s penis?
A woman’s vagina is amazing but most men know very little about it.
What follows are step by step instructions on getting to know your wife’s vulva. The goal is not to bring her to orgasm but to learn what feels good.
Song of Songs 6:2-3
2 My beloved has gone down to his garden,
to the beds of spice
Sharing her body with you is probably the most vulnerable thing your wife will do. She must feel safe and know that you will respect any wish that she has – without question or disappointment. She may not be comfortable letting you explore all of her, but to the extent that she does, your response will determine whether she gives you another try. Think about what attitude you would want your wife to have if she ever explored your penis. Verbally affirm her during and after the experience to let her know how much you loved it. Be amazed, awed, intrigued and blessed.
To approach your wife, simply tell her that you have been learning about the female body, and you would like to spend time getting to know her, because her body is the only one that matters. Tell her that you will be gentle, and she can tell you to stop or pause whenever she wants. Tell her you want her to tell you if anything is uncomfortable or what might feel better.
Your wife has an amazing body that is capable of endless possibilities but can seem overwhelming and nonsensical to understand. If you are not careful, you might miss many of the small nuances that make your wife’s body special. The next few weeks, I will attempt to demystify the female body. We will spend time talking about her anatomy, how it likes to be touched, and suggest some ways to get to know her.
First we go down to the garden – that hidden, mysterious valley than can seem oh so confusing. Certainly her body is not as defined and visibly obvious as your penis, but with focus you will learn some amazing things.
We want the church – every man and woman that knows Jesus Christ as their Lord – to take back sex from the world. We… Read More »We Want to Start a Revolution
In honor of a New Year… Getting ready for Valentines…Getting out of the doldrums of winter…Making new memories…
So for the next 6 Thursdays, we will suggest very specific and creative ways to let loose, have fun and make memories with your spouse. Whether newlyweds or married 50 years, if you have no kids, young kids, grown kids or teenagers, adding some enthusiasm and whimsy to your marriage benefits everyone!
Don’t just read about it, actually do it!
Some of the ideas will be for husbands and some will be for wives. You can easily adapt all of the ideas for the other. Weekly, we will make it clear who the post is for. If you want to be surprised, you can stop reading and forward the post to your spouse. Or you can just decide to treat your spouse for 6 weeks straight.
Have fun, connect, find refreshment and revel in each other. It is going to be a great year!
The Wives Plan Date Number 1 Read More »WANT TO HAVE FUN – Week 1
Song of Songs 8:10-12
She
10 I am a wall,
and my breasts are like towers.
Thus I have become in his eyes
like one bringing contentment.
11 Solomon had a vineyard in Baal Hamon;
he let out his vineyard to tenants.
Each was to bring for its fruit
a thousand shekels of silver.
12 But my own vineyard is mine to give;
the thousand shekels are for you, Solomon,
and two hundred are for those who tend its fruit.
But my own vineyard is mine to give.
The other night I was teaching Awaken Love MEN’S EDITION Week 3 which is all about how a woman’s body works. Midway thru the night, I asked the men, “Can you make your wife have an orgasm?”
After years of buying into the same old messages about sex, Ruth went searching for God’s truth and discovered something radically different. By sharing her own journey to sexual freedom and the stories of the women she’s taught, you will come away with a new mindset about sex and a deep-seated belief that God designed each of us unique, special – and created for delights.
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