To be honest with you, I am not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day. Maybe it is because I watched my mom try not to feel disappointed when the greatest gesture my dad could muster was buying a card at the drug store. I know it wasn’t a huge deal to my mom. She cared more that dad was a great husband – gentle, kind, loving, a good provider and absolutely steady. She understood that he grew up on a farm where a handmade shirt was an extravagant gift for Christmas. But still… I think she would have loved it if dad had splurged and gone a little crazy one day. If he had surprised her with a special date or gift that not only expressed his love and appreciation, but that made her sparkle.
Romance
With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, just hearing the word romance can make husbands retreat. The word romance can feel intangible, unattainable and like a recipe for disaster. Valentine’s Day can seem commercialized and forced. Romantic gestures come from a place of expectation rather than a spontaneous expression from the heart. But Valentine’s Day can also act as an impetus to give romance another try. To go for it, and hope to surprise our spouse and communicate, “You are amazing and I’d go to the moon for you!”
So while the world spends millions of dollars on chocolates, cards, and flowers, what can you do to romance your spouse?
To help you understand what creates romance check out my post to help demystify what define what creates romance. And ladies, don’t think husbands need to always carry the responsibility for romance. Your husband wants to feel special too. So what can you do to tell your spouse, “I know what makes you smile, what makes you purr, what makes your heart beat?” I thought I’d share a few ideas from class and ask you to share your own to inspire each other.
Romantic Ideas from Class
A wife fulfilled her husband’s fantasy of having sex in the car by planning a private location, secretly packing the needed supplies, and courageously going for it.
A husband secretly brought his wedding album on an overnight getaway. He and his wife spent time looking at pictures and recalling fond memories from their wedding day.
A wife surprised her husband by taking the kids to a friend’s house overnight. When he arrived home, his wife treated him to a candlelight dinner on a warm blanket wearing his favorite outfit.
One husband laid out a beautiful dress for his wife on the bed with a note that read, “Can’t wait to spend the night dancing with you in my arms. Get changed and wait for me here.” 20 minutes later he showed up wearing a suit and tie and a mixed CD of their favorite songs. They danced in their room until the clothes started coming off.
Share Ideas
Start thinking about your own romantic ideas and share them to encourage others. It might be something that you have done in the past or that you hope to do in the future. It can be something big, or something small. As an added incentive, anyone that shares an idea by Friday will have their name entered in a drawing for a free copy of my book Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage.
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The Author
If your wife is a stay at home mom or just stays at home, and is the one to get the mail everyday, start surprising her by mailing her a cute, brief love letter, or dollar store romantic card, everyday for the 3 three days leading up to Valentines Day.
I love this! Thanks for the idea.
Ruth
One year while I was still at work my husband came home early and took cardboard boxes and made a giant pan out of them in the living room by lining them completely with tinfoil. He then nicely laid out a bunch of blankets and pillows and lit candles everywhere. In the center of the giant ”pan” was my favorite dessert…”Sex in a Pan”.
Now that is creative! Sounds like fun.
I’ve been leaving hearts on our bathroom mirror for my husband since Feb 1st with little reasons I love him. Each day has gotten a little more errotic! Luckily my daughter can’t ready yet!!
You have a lucky husband. Way to spice it up.
Cut out 20 hearts and create your own conversation hearts. Make 2 of each message. “hug me”,”let’s dance “ “foot massage ”, leave 2 blank for your own choice. Be creative! Turn them over and begin matching. Take 2 minutes (or more if you are enjoying the moment) with each match to do what it says. Of course it helps if you have prepared and have created a romantic environment, including what you have on!