Weekly Mission #1
In honor of my new fall class starting up, give your husband a sensuous massage. Try to focus on really feeling him. Feel his skin,… Read More »Weekly Mission #1
Ruth Buezis
What does God say about sex
My goal this Fall is to post on Mondays the series “The sex you want” and Thursday I will post a short mission, something fun you can do with your spouse.
I spend a lot of time reading about sex – Christian books, secular books, how to manuals, research studies, therapy books – and trust me, there is no lack of opinions. It can be easy to get caught up in what the latest book says and so it is with awe and respect that I have to constantly remind myself, “Go back to the source. What does God say about sex, what does the bible say?”
Discoveries in Sex
I’ve been reading the book” Masters of Sex” that chronicles the life of William Masters and Virginia Johnson who revolutionized sex in the 1960’s. Previous to their studies, even doctors knew absolutely nothing about the actual physiology of sex, especially for women. If wives went to their ob/gyn with a question, they were simply given a hug and told that everything would be ok. In fact, Master’s and Johnson’s initial medical articles on sex were scorned because not even doctors dared to talk about sex.
Masters and Johnson monitored and observed over 10,000 orgasms resulting from self-stimulation or intercourse over a period of 10 years. They studied heart rates, pulse, changes in coloration, breath rates and even made a camera to observe what happens inside the vagina. It is doubtful that a study will ever be allowed again of this magnitude.
Back at It
It has been almost a month since my last post. My daughter got married in our back yard, out of town family came and went,… Read More »Back at It
Time to Revive
re·vive – verb 1. restore to life or consciousness 2. to give new strength or energy to 3. to regain life, consciousness, or strength The last… Read More »Time to Revive
Summer Vacation Sex
4th of July is almost here and many of us will be heading out on vacation to soak up some sun, play with our kids, bike, swim, camp or whatever it is that you enjoy. For those of us with kids, at times it can feel like anything but a vacation. By the time we have packed everyone up, planned the meals, remembered the sunscreen and the bug spray and dealt with the disruption of regular schedules, we are ready for a vacation from vacation. Often, sex is the last thing on our mind during vacation, but if you are open, vacation can offer some unique possibilities for connecting with our spouse.
Welcome Home Sex
I just got home from a High School Adventure Trip to the mountains in Canada that was an incredible week of hiking, climbing, caving and enjoying God’s creation. It was also 10 days away from my husband, my kids and my bed and I was dead tired, but one of the things I looked forward to most was reconnecting with my husband in a very physical way, if you know what I mean.
I haven’t always been so good at “welcome home sex”. I remember times when my husband would travel for work, and in order to survive, I would just emotionally shut down. By the time he got home, I had everything in order, but I had also put up a wall towards him. I didn’t welcome him home with open arms or an appetite for him. I made him pay his dues and ever so slowly allowed myself to open back up. I look back at those times and think, how much nicer it would have been if I could have just leaped into his arms and wrapped myself around him.
So how do we make “welcome home sex” what it is supposed to be?
Women of Strength
Saturday I leave for a week with the senior high as we head to Frontier Lodge in Alberta Canada for an adventure camp filled with climbing, repelling, canoeing, and mountain biking. Our theme for the girls is “Women of Strength” and I’ve been spending some time thinking about what a woman of strength looks like…
What’s underneath counts
I’ve been spending quite a bit of time down in my basement lately working on a couple of woodworking jobs that I picked up. I… Read More »What’s underneath counts
Good girl – Bad girl
I picked up a new secular sex book at my favorite thrift store this week called The Good Girl’s guide to Bad Girl Sex, written by Barbara Keesling PhD. In the first chapter she shares that” being bad” does not mean being immoral, pornographic, behaving dangerously, demeaning yourself, or being indiscriminate with your sexual partners. “Being Bad” means loving sex, being physically uninhibited, feeling sexual hunger, being assertive and unashamed, fully integrated and intensely orgasmic.
Isn’t it amazing how backwards we have it?
