WEEKLY MISSION #12
Christmas is coming. Don’t forget to think about giving some gifts to make your bedroom special. Below are a list of ideas. My favorite item… Read More »WEEKLY MISSION #12
Ruth Buezis
WEEKLY MISSION #11
A couple of weeks ago, I taught a class called “Your friend’s marriage matters”. We spent time talking about how to encourage our friends in… Read More »WEEKLY MISSION #11
WEEKLY MISSION #10
Are you thankful for your husband? We wives can be so complicated in bed and in many ways a real challenge to love. What works one… Read More »WEEKLY MISSION #10
How to love your wife with oral sex
Many of these concepts are based on Ian Kerner’s She Comes First: The thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman
After teaching over 500 women about sex, it is clear that most wives have the same insecurity, “Does he really want to be down there.” Husbands, you need to know that wives have a terrible time believing that you like the taste, your neck isn’t in knots, and that you aren’t just doing it because we want you to.
Your wife needs to know that you enjoy giving her oral sex, and the only way she will know, is if you tell her. You will need to tell her time and time again, because the same insecurity will show its head over, and over, and over…
If you have ever viewed oral sex in pornography, then erase every image and memory, because what real women enjoy is nothing like what you have seen.
Now, if you haven’t read my article on “Rubbing vs. Feeling – Manual stimulation” a couple of weeks ago, then go back and read it before you go any further, because the same concepts apply to oral sex.
God wants husbands and wives to “know” each other through sex. Your intuitive wife will know whether you are just wildly flicking your tongue around trying to get something to work, or if you are actually present, feeling her through your tongue, sensing the changes to her body, and taking her somewhere.
WEEKLY MISSION #10
It has been an interesting week, with all kinds of up and downs, twists and turns. What I want to share with you comes from… Read More »WEEKLY MISSION #10
WEEKLY MISSION #9
The time change always throws me for a loop, and this week I just keep waking up early. Time for some great morning sex. Take… Read More »WEEKLY MISSION #9
WEEKLY MISSION #8
Tomorrow I turn 50 years old. I will celebrate with friends at a party that night, and later…I will celebrate in private with my husband.… Read More »WEEKLY MISSION #8
Let your fingers do the walking
If you got a chance to read about “The amusement park of orgasms” in Hot, Holy and Humorous, then you know that the first orgasm she describes is “The Roller Coaster Dip”. It is that mind blowing orgasm that swooshes down a free fall as it releases every ounce of sexual tension in your body. It can leave you feeling like a blob of putty that cannot move, speak or think. It is the orgasm that results from stimulation of the clitoris by hands, mouth, or whatever.
Direct stimulation of the clitoris is the most reliable way for women to orgasm. Many times it is the most defined orgasm especially if intercourse is not taking place at the same time. With clitoral stimulation , there is a clarity of where the sensations are coming and a radiating out from that point to the ends of our finger tips and toes and the top of our head.
For women that have never had an orgasm, giving yourself the freedom to do some self-exploration may be the best thing you ever do for your marriage. A book I read recently that worked with pre-orgasmic women, suggested spending an hour every day for 2-5 weeks to figure out what works for you. That sounds like an enormous amount of time. but why not. When we learn how to play an instrument or a sport, we commit to practice on a regular basis for years. So why not commit to learning your body, so that you can teach your husband?
Even for women that orgasm on a regular basis, it is not unusual for orgasms resulting from self stimulation to physically feel the strongest, and we might wonder how this can be.
WEEKLY MISSION #7
One of my favorite blogs Hot, Holy and Humorous had a post this week that I just loved called “The Amusement Park of Orgasms”. I… Read More »WEEKLY MISSION #7
Do you love yourself?
Girls and boys have such different experiences discovering their bodies.
By the time boys are potty training, they are forming a very hands on relationship with their penis. It is part of everyday life to touch and hold their penis, and it can quickly become a best friend. They know what it looks like, what it feels like, and how it changes with temperature, and there is really nothing dirty about their penis. It is simply part of who they are.
Girls on the other hand, are physically created very differently. Our parts are tucked inside and may never be touched, besides the occasional wiping with a piece of toilet paper. If you wanted to actually see what was down there, you’d have to either bend like a pretzel, or dare to pull out a mirror. Even in a mirror, our bodies are distantly removed when we view them through a reflection. Girls grow up not knowing that they have 3 holes, all they know is that dirty stuff comes out down there, and you better wash your hands with soap and water afterwards.
I ask the question, “Do you love yourself?” because I am not sure many of us really do.
