Ruth Buezis

Talk about SEX?

by Ruth Buezis
March 1, 2015August 2, 2017
2 Comments

I don’t think great sex just happens. Real life is not like the movies where the guy confidently takes you in his arms, you melt at his touch as desire inflames your body, and intercourse simultaneously takes both of you to the moon and back.

Great sex happens because you are brave enough to talk about your needs and desires, and courageous enough to hear and honor your spouse’s needs and desires.

In order to work towards having an orgasm during intercourse, you must talk about sex. You must talk about where you are at, what you would like to try, let him know how he can help, and come up with a plan B.

Awaken Love Classes

by Ruth Buezis
February 26, 2015September 22, 2016

People have asked, “what is your vision for Awaken Love classes,where do you see it going?”

I’m never quite sure how to answer, but over and over, I hear myself saying, “I would love for more women to start teaching classes, women from all over the place.”

His and Her Kegels

by Ruth Buezis
February 23, 2015February 7, 2020
7 Comments

If you want to experience an orgasm during intercourse, there is no better place to start than for both you and your husband to become more aware of your own bodies, and to have more control over them. So today I will outline for both of you the reasons to do kegels, how to do them, and to how make it a part of your day.

9 Things I’d say about sex if I had no filter

by Ruth Buezis
February 17, 2015September 22, 2016
10 Comments

I am joining the bandwagon of Christian Sex Bloggers with 9 Things I would say about sex if I had no filter. Kudos to Julie Sibert at Intimacy in Marriage for getting us started.

1. We are in a battle to save marriage – rather than pointing our fingers at others we ought to be looking at ourselves. Does our marriage look different because we are enjoying the intimacy and freedom that God intended for us? Do our kids look at our marriage and think to themselves, “that is what I want.” Great sex is part of a great marriage.

The Big Question – How Do I Have an Orgasm During Intercourse

by Ruth Buezis
February 15, 2015August 2, 2017

It is the question women most often ask about sex,

“How do I have an orgasm during intercourse?”

I have to be honest, when I got married 25 years ago and had questions about sex I bought a secular book, “For Yourself” by Lonnie Barbach. Typical of most secular books, it clearly communicated that the chances of women having an orgasm during intercourse were pretty slim, so just concentrate on what did work, and enjoy it.

So that’s what we did. We basically subscribed to the “she comes first” mantra, then afterward my husband would enjoy finishing inside of me.

But the last few years I have read a ton of books on sex, both secular and Christian, and there is a huge divide in what they teach. Even though the Christian books may teach manual techniques for a woman to figure out how to have an orgasm, they all progress to how to have an orgasm during intercourse. Whether it is the perfectly timed transition from foreplay to intercourse, or the strategic tilt of her hips, it can make you feel like everything should just fall into place if you follow the magic formula. It seems like there ought to be a middle ground.

LIVE THE SONG – Stare at me

by Ruth Buezis
January 28, 2015September 22, 2016

Song of Songs 1:5-7

She

How right they are to adore you!

⁵Dark am I, yet lovely,
    daughters of Jerusalem,
dark like the tents of Kedar,
    like the tent curtains of Solomon.^[^c^]
⁶Do not stare at me because I am dark,
    because I am darkened by the sun.
My mother’s sons were angry with me
    and made me take care of the vineyards;
    my own vineyard I had to neglect.
⁷Tell me, you whom I love,
    where you graze your flock
    and where you rest your sheep at midday.
Why should I be like a veiled woman
    beside the flocks of your friends

Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun.

It kind of jumps out at you, doesn’t it?

Read More »LIVE THE SONG – Stare at me

IF – The Game Changer

by Ruth Buezis
January 25, 2015July 31, 2017

During my women’s class Awaken Love , I ask the question, “What gets you in the mood?”

I’ve heard everything from “nothing” to “a glass of wine” to “praying with my husband” to “my husband cleaning the toilet”. There are as many answers as there are women in the world, but there is a common thread I hear over and over that husbands need to understand.

LIVE THE SONG – Yeah!! Marriage!!

by Ruth Buezis
January 21, 2015September 22, 2016
1 Comment

Song of Songs 1;1-4

She

Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—
    for your love is more delightful than wine.
³Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes;
    your name is like perfume poured out.
    No wonder the young women love you!
⁴Take me away with you—let us hurry!
    Let the king bring me into his chambers.

Friends

We rejoice and delight in you^[^b^];
we will praise your love more than wine.

I like to think of the “Friends” in Song of Songs as cheer leaders encouraging them from the sidelines, saying, ” don’t give up, it is so worth it.”

Marriage is hard – intimacy is hard – yet God wants it to be so good.

WEEKLY MISSION 2014

by Ruth Buezis
December 30, 2014September 22, 2016

During this time of reflection, consider what you can do to strengthen your marriage. Below are some ideas to get your creative juices going…

WEEKLY MISSION #13

by Ruth Buezis
December 18, 2014July 31, 2017

I had an interesting conversation the other day.

I was talking to one of my husbands friends about possibly attending my class for the men and he said,’If everything works, why do I need to worry about learning something new?” I was a little shocked, because I always figure just the opposite, ” there is always something new to learn.”

Now to be fair, this is probably the typical answer for most men. It comes from the foundational truth that most men cling to, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”

What men may not realize, is that women are like this complicated stereo component. You can either listen to it, with all the knobs randomly set to the neutral position, and have adequate sound. Or you can learn what all the knobs actually do, and dial them into each song for the ultimate music.

Ruth Buezis

Talk about SEX?

Like this:

Awaken Love Classes

Like this:

His and Her Kegels

Like this:

9 Things I’d say about sex if I had no filter

Like this:

The Big Question – How Do I Have an Orgasm During Intercourse

“How do I have an orgasm during intercourse?”

Like this:

LIVE THE SONG – Stare at me

Like this:

IF – The Game Changer

Like this:

LIVE THE SONG – Yeah!! Marriage!!

Like this:

WEEKLY MISSION 2014

Like this:

WEEKLY MISSION #13

Like this:

Buy the book

Ruth Buezis

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

“How do I have an orgasm during intercourse?”

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Sharing is Caring

Like this:

Buy the book