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WANT TO HAVE FUN – Week 1

In honor of a New Year… Getting ready for Valentines…Getting out of the doldrums of winter…Making new memories…

Sometimes you just want to have fun.

So for the next 6 Thursdays, we will suggest very specific and creative ways to let loose, have fun and make memories with your spouse. Whether newlyweds or married 50 years, if you have no kids, young kids, grown kids or teenagers, adding some enthusiasm and whimsy to your marriage benefits everyone!

Don’t just read about it, actually do it!

Some of the ideas will be for husbands and some will be for wives. You can easily adapt all of the ideas for the other. Weekly, we will make it clear who the post is for. If you want to be surprised, you can stop reading and forward the post to your spouse. Or you can just decide to treat your spouse for 6 weeks straight.

Have fun, connect, find refreshment and revel in each other.  It is going to be a great year!

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LIVE THE SONG – MINE TO GIVE

Song of Songs 8:10-12

She

10 I am a wall,
    and my breasts are like towers.
Thus I have become in his eyes
    like one bringing contentment.
11 Solomon had a vineyard in Baal Hamon;
    he let out his vineyard to tenants.
Each was to bring for its fruit
    a thousand shekels of silver.
12 But my own vineyard is mine to give;
    the thousand shekels are for you, Solomon,
    and two hundred are for those who tend its fruit.

But my own vineyard is mine to give.

The other night I was teaching Awaken Love MEN’S EDITION Week 3 which is all about how a woman’s body works. Midway thru the night, I asked the men, “Can you make your wife have an orgasm?”

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LIVE THE SONG – WHAT SHALL WE DO?

Song of Songs 

Friends

8 We have a little sister,
    and her breasts are not yet grown.
What shall we do for our sister
    on the day she is spoken for? 

9 If she is a wall,
    we will build towers of silver on her.
If she is a door,
    we will enclose her with panels of cedar.

What shall we do for our sister?

If she protects herself, we will reward her.

If she is loose, we will build walls around her – to help protect her.

These friends were actively involved in helping their sister stay pure.

In this day and age, odds are stacked against people staying pure until marriage. Pornography is rampant, casual encounters are the norm, and remaining pure is just plain crazy. We live in a society that is about instant gratification and getting what you want. The average age for girls to marry is now 27, and that is a long time to wait.

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25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask + Giveaway

Slattery BookI am a big fan of Dr. Juli Slattery because she does not shy away from God’s truth. Melanie and I were given the opportunity to review her new book, 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex and Intimacy.  So here goes, our first official book review!

Juli’s book gracefully answers 25 of the most common questions she is asked as she travels around discipling women to reclaim God’s design for sexuality and intimacy.  Juli is a wife, a mom, a clinical psychologist, an author, host of the Java with Juli podcast and co-founder of the Authentic Intimacy ministry.  She knows her stuff!

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LIVE THE SONG – LOVE IS

Song of Songs 8:5-7

Friends

5 Who is this coming up from the wilderness
    leaning on her beloved?

She

Under the apple tree I roused you;
    there your mother conceived you,
    there she who was in labor gave you birth.
6 Place me like a seal over your heart,
    like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
    its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
    like a mighty flame.
7 Many waters cannot quench love;
    rivers cannot sweep it away.
If one were to give
    all the wealth of one’s house for love,
    it would be utterly scorned.

 

Love Is….

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LIVE THE SONG – EMBRACE ME

Song of Songs 8:2-4

She

2 I would lead you
  and bring you to my mother’s house—
    she who has taught me.
I would give you spiced wine to drink,
    the nectar of my pomegranates.
3 His left arm is under my head
    and his right arm embraces me.
4 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you:
    Do not arouse or awaken love
    until it so desires.

His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me.

How many different positions does your husband embrace you during sex?

How many ways does he hold you while he strokes your most intimate parts?

How many ways do you connect while he works magic with his hands?

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NOT OUR OWN

The other night while teaching a group of newlyweds and engaged couples, we were brainstorming the wrong messages that we received about sex and contrasting them to God’s truth. When talking about sex as a protection against temptation, someone brought up 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 which basically says that our body in not our own.

3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

I have to be honest – this has never been my favorite verse about sex.

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LIVE THE SONG – I WOULD KISS YOU

Song of Songs 8:1

She

8 If only you were to me like a brother,
    who was nursed at my mother’s breasts!
Then, if I found you outside,
    I would kiss you,
    and no one would despise me.

At first glance, this passage may sound strange, but is quite simple.  At the time this was written, public displays of affection were prohibited between husband and wife. She is simply wishing that she could be more open with when and how she is allowed to kiss her husband.

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Your Husband’s Perineum – New Territory to Explore

The Perineum, commonly called the taint is the territory between his testicles and his anus. It may be an area where a husband is very aware of the possibilities of pleasure or has absolutely no clue what he is missing out on. It is our privilege to help him discover just how amazing his body is.

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LIVE THE SONG – EVERY DELICACY

Song of Songs 7:13

She

3 The mandrakes send out their fragrance,

    and at our door is every delicacy,
both new and old,
    that I have stored up for you, my beloved.

Is every delicacy at your door – both new and old.

Having a great sex life is a journey. It is a journey of discovering how our bodies work and how our spouses bodies work. It is a process of building trust and getting comfortable enough to communicate our desires and being bold enough to share our passion. It is a journey of recognizing baggage that has affected us, asking for God’s help in dealing with it and claiming His redemption in our life. It is a lifetime of exploring each other and mining the deepest parts of our lover.

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After years of buying into the same old messages about sex, Ruth went searching for God’s truth and discovered something radically different. By sharing her own journey to sexual freedom and the stories of the women she’s taught, you will come away with a new mindset about sex and a deep-seated belief that God designed each of us unique, special – and created for delights.

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