The Vulva – DOWN TO THE GARDEN
What follows are step by step instructions on getting to know your wife’s vulva. The goal is not to bring her to orgasm but to learn what feels good.
Song of Songs 6:2-3
2 My beloved has gone down to his garden,
to the beds of spice
Your Wife’s Insecurities –
Sharing her body with you is probably the most vulnerable thing your wife will do. She must feel safe and know that you will respect any wish that she has – without question or disappointment. She may not be comfortable letting you explore all of her, but to the extent that she does, your response will determine whether she gives you another try. Think about what attitude you would want your wife to have if she ever explored your penis. Verbally affirm her during and after the experience to let her know how much you loved it. Be amazed, awed, intrigued and blessed.
To approach your wife, simply tell her that you have been learning about the female body, and you would like to spend time getting to know her, because her body is the only one that matters. Tell her that you will be gentle, and she can tell you to stop or pause whenever she wants. Tell her you want her to tell you if anything is uncomfortable or what might feel better.
