Glued Together Podcast Part 2
Podcast with Delight Your Marriage The 2nd half of my podcast with Belah Rose at Delight Your Marriage is live! Belah and I talk about… Read More »Glued Together Podcast Part 2
Ruth Buezis
Living in the Tension
There is nothing easy about living in the tension
This place that is neither black nor white. It requires us to discern and not just follow rules. We have to talk about things, wrestle with God and we have to be ready to change when God calls us to something different. Living in the tension is hard but it also helps us understand who God is.
God is able to extend mercy and grace but He is also just and righteous.
God loves us by accepting us as we are but He also speaks truth to us about who He created us to become.
He calls us to serve but He also calls us to receive.
God tells us that it is not what we do that earns favor with Him but it is out of an abundant love for Him that we do what He calls us to.
It would be much easier if God just gave us a set of rules to follow, but He doesn’t. He is much more interested in our heart and our motivation then following the rules. He wants us to have a relationship with Him and a heart that has a pulse on who He is.
Why can’t I let him lead?
Can I let you in on a secret?
“I have a much easier time enjoying sex when I am leading”….
There, I said it. The cat is out of the bag.
“I LIKE TO LEAD”
“I like to decide when we are going to have sex and how we are going to have it.”
Believe in Your Beauty Podcast
Delight Your Marriage Podcast Today I am talking on a Podcast with Belah Rose over at Delight Your Marriage where I share my story of believing that… Read More »Believe in Your Beauty Podcast
Freedom to Live
This weekend I watched the movie, “The Giver,” with my family. I could not help but relate what is portrayed in this Utopian society to what happens in our individual lives.
The Giver
The story takes place in a society run by a group of elders. In order to prevent wars, crimes of passion, or even struggle, everything has been sterilized and made the same. People wear the same white outfits, ride identical bicycles and live in identical houses to prevent jealousy. Children attend the same school, and at a predetermined age, the elders determine their future role in society based on their strengths. Elders arrange marriages to ensure a sound family unit to raise children. People work together for the good of society and food, housing, health care and jobs are provided for everyone. People are polite, there is no jealousy, no arguing, and no violence. All is peaceful.
But what looks like an ideal society – turns out to be not so ideal.
“Why Only ONE?”
The question came from a husband that was honest enough to admit purity was a struggle but
desired to honor and love his wife by arming for the battle.
The world tells us that you can have sex with as many people as you want and it doesn’t matter. Sex is just a physical pleasure that is to be consumed until it loses excitement and then you move on to the next conquest. If you do get married, then looking at others or using them in your mind to provide arousal is no big deal. And pornography tells us if sex with one person doesn’t do it for you, then why not try a threesome? You can find articles detailing ground rules and ideas on how to find the third party. And if a threesome… why not a foursome, fivesome – or a free for all. All messages that convey, “Why Only One?”
So beyond the obvious answer of God designed marriage to be one man and one woman, “Why Only One?”
Keeping the Creativity Going
The other night during the Awaken-Love Men’s Edition class we were talking about battling the lie that “Sex within marriage is boring.” I was sharing that I believe women are amazingly creative in the bedroom. In Song of Songs 7:11-12, she plans an outdoor rendezvous for the two of them to enjoy. They go to the vineyards early, before anyone else is there, and have sex outside.
Naturally, the men were eager to convey that they had no problem if their wife wanted to plan an outdoor adventure – or anything else that was creative. And then the question came up,
“If my wife is naturally creative, how do I get her to tap into her creativity?”
I have to be honest, beyond the obvious answers of creating a safe place and affirming the creative things that she does, I didn’t have much of an answer. So I have been chewing on it all week, and I have an idea…
Legs Together – Oral Sex for Her
Legs Together is an interesting variation on oral sex that your wife may enjoy more than you expect.
The Power of Stillness
Have you ever thought about the power of stillness?
To feel a pulse
Hear from God
To listen to our own bodies and desires
Sometimes I think that we have this idea that sex is all about movement – in and out, back and forth, frantic motion – trying to make something happen. So much motion that we get lost and dizzy and miss out on what is there all along.
Take Her to The Wall
Most women secretly crave a husband that leads confidently enough to take her.
Against the wall is probably one of the most passionate positions.
In order for a husband to take her to the wall, she must trust him. He must be so in tune with his wife that he knows when and how. Women have this romantic notion that a husband taking us will be the hottest thing ever. But when it comes right down to it, women are control freaks. Many of us don’t handle surprises well. We cannot expect our husbands to take us without helping them out. Sensitive husbands may be err on the side of being, kind, considerate, and using lots of foreplay . That does not really jive with”being taken.”
