Podcast about Awaken-Love Men’s Edition
My husband and I team up to teach a class called Awaken-Love Men’s Edition. About a month ago, I sat down with Belah Rose from… Read More »Podcast about Awaken-Love Men’s Edition
Ruth Buezis
Do We Only Show the Presentable Parts or All of Me?
Sometimes in the church, we think in order to commune with God we need to have our life put together. It seems like nobody struggles in their marriage, with depression, with pornography or rebellious kids. If they do, they sure as heck don’t talk about it. Pretty soon we begin to believe that God only wants to know the presentable parts. When we struggle, we go into hiding and say, “God, when I have this figured out, then…” As a college kid that drank too much, church was the last place I wanted to go. I did not want to see God, talk to Him or hear from Him. I thought I needed to fix myself first, and honestly that might never have happened.
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A Great Sex Life – Not all Rocket Science
Having a great sex life is not all rocket science. The small everyday things that we do make a huge difference. They set the stage and are the meat and potatoes of our relationship that great sex rolls out of. So, I thought I would share some of the small practical everyday things that make a difference to my husband and me.
Is Your Marriage Your First Priority?
Anything and everything will get in the way of your marriage and your sex life.
- Kids
- Work
- Social Media
- Staying fit
- Ministry
- Keeping up with the Jones
- Serving
- Screen time
- Chores
- Insecurities
- Expectations
In the same way, anything and everything will get in the way of your relationship with God.
The Power of Kegel Exercises for Men
The other day my husband came home from work and said, “I had the funniest thing happen today. I was standing at the urinal when one of my colleagues next to me says, “wow, no problem with that flow!”My husband is in his 50’s and for the last 5 years has been faithfully doing Kegel exercises. Sometimes we hear these things about exercise or eating right and we think whatever… so I thought I would share a personal testimony of what impact consistent Kegel Exercises can have….
Do We Settle for Boring?
I think one of the most powerful messages that Satan uses to destroy marriage is the simple lie that …
Marriage is supposed to be boring.
or that…
Sex in marriage is just going to be boring.
Mismatched Sex Drive
“Why don’t I have a drive like my husband?”
This wasn’t the first time I had heard this question. It is easy as a lower drive spouse to feel like something is wrong with us because we don’t have a drive. It must be awesome to want sex all the time – it would make life so much easier.
When it comes to sex, I don’t really think there is an easy road. We just have different challenges to navigate.
Honestly, I think part of our problem is giving our drives way too much power. As Christians, we say that sex is not just physical, but do we really believe it and do we live it? If we believed sex was a gift from God to strengthen marriage, wouldn’t we be having sex regardless of whether our physical body was screaming for it.
Intimacy with ChristsMirrors Intimacy in Marriage
Over the last 6 years I have read a ton of books on sex, both secular and Christian. As you might imagine, with a million… Read More »Intimacy with ChristsMirrors Intimacy in Marriage
Intercourse Insight
Intercourse is God’s design to make what seems like an impossibility, an opportunity for growth.
Over the course of my marriage, intercourse has changed drastically from
- something that I just endured
- to something that frustrated the heck out of me
- to something that I crave- regardless of whether I reach orgasm.
Intercourse, more than any other sexual act has stretched my husband and I to talk about really hard stuff. It has forced us to not just focus on mechanics but on connection. We have thrown out every preconceived idea of what intercourse looks like and instead created something that works for us. And we have grown enormously because of it, individually and as a couple.
Does God have a Hierarchy of Orgasms?
I have a confession to make – for years I did not really enjoy intercourse. It just did nothing for me. In fact, many times it was even painful. And it used to upset me to read Christian books or blogs that said it is ok to enjoy the other stuff but intercourse should always be most important. It did not match my personal experience and it made me feel broken.
It was as if they were creating another expectation that I could not meet – a hierarchy of sexual enjoyment
- Simultaneous orgasm during intercourse
- Orgasm during intercourse hands free
- Orgasm during intercourse with help
- Orgasm during outer course
- Orgasm during manual stimulation
- Orgasm during oral stimulation
- Orgasm using a vibrator
- Orgasm while touching yourself
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