The traditional 69 position of woman on top, mouth to genitals, can be challenging to wives for several reasons:
- it takes a lot of arm strength to hold up her body – especially if she wants to get another hand involved in the action
- it is hard to stay under the covers on a cold night
- there are few physical points of connection other than mouths on genitals
- it can feel as if her rear is literally right in front of her husbands eyes
So here is another position, Lazy 69, that provides simultaneous oral pleasure, is relaxing for both husband and wife, and provides loads of skin to skin connection.
The Lazy 
Align your bodies similar to the traditional 69 position but instead, both of you lay on your side in a gently curled up position. The wife will need to gently spread her legs apart so that the husband can rest his clean shaven cheek on her inner thigh. The wife can either rest her head on the mattress or on a small pillow. Both husband and wife can gently pull the other closer for more intimate contact. In this relaxed position it is easy to stay warm under the covers. Hands can freely be used to stroke, caress or grasp. If the wife wants more access to his testicles or perineum, she can gently spread his legs. Bodies can be pulled even closer to gain further access or just to meld bodies together as pleasure mounts.
Take all the time in the world as you explore and enjoy
The Lazy 69
Sounds like something we should try. Anyone out there. That does this a lot and likes it?
That would be a YES. This position isifull of mind blowing passion! Amazing what these positions that require trust has done for my marriage in general. I love my husband more every single day.
I didn’t mean to sound crass in my earlier comment. My married sex life is on life support and I’m desperate. Thanks for your blog.
So sorry for what you are going through. To be honest, sometimes I don’t respond, because I have no idea how to respond. I am glad that my blog has been helpful to you. I have been reading with my husband, The Good Guys Guide to Great Sex by the Gregoires and I think it is really good and could be helpful to a lot of men to understand the dynamics they might be facing in their sex life. I pray that God gives you opportunities to know your wife.
Thank you so much for your honesty and words of encouragement…your blog has been an oasis in a desert. God bless your ministry!
Great article on a great position for mutual enjoyment for husband and wife. I’ve only tried this in the 69 traditional style but the side to side might work better especially as we both get older.