I have a confession to make. …

Last year as I was writing the LIVE THE SONG series, I got to  Song of Songs 6:10-12, and I totally came up empty. I had nothing. I had no idea what it meant and how to apply it so…

I left it out. I just skipped it and figured that no one would notice. But a few months later I got this email….

Hi Ruth
I have loved every one of your posts featuring Song of Songs and have read them many times over. Sad when I got the last one. I seem to be missing 6:10-12.
I have searched your blog several times and can’t seem to locate it.
Was this published? Help!
Thanks so much.

My first reaction was – how awesome that someone was actually reading Live the Song.

My second thought was – How embarrassing – Now I have to admit that I skipped a section.

So here is my best attempt…

Song of Songs 6:10-12


10 Who is this that appears like the dawn,
    fair as the moon, bright as the sun,
    majestic as the stars in procession?


11 I went down to the grove of nut trees
    to look at the new growth in the valley,
to see if the vines had budded
    or the pomegranates were in bloom.
12 Before I realized it,
    my desire set me among the royal chariots of my people.

I have to be honest…. I’m still not sure what to do with it. Sometimes when I read the Bible, I immediately know what it means. Other times, I chew on it for a while, or wrestle with it, and God gives me what I need. But sometimes, there are passages that I never  understand. They are a mystery – and that’s ok. God is way beyond my comprehension and reality, and I will never understand everything about what He does or how He works.

Just because I cannot make sense of every detail of the Bible,  I can make sense of part of it and I hold onto it. Don’t give up on God because you don’t understand everything about Him – ground yourself in what you do know…

  • He loves you
  • He is good
  • He is powerful
  • He is just
  • He redeems us
  • He is all knowing and we are not

Don’t give up on Song of Songs because parts of it are confusing. Take what speaks to you and put it into action. There are pictures of what intimacy looks like that are timeless.

  • The role of husband and wife in the marriage bed should be as equals
  • Stretch in using your words to express your love
  • Use all 5 of your senses to experience each other
  • Be creative and plan adventure
  • Insecurities of body image and feeling loved are a battle for women
  • Husbands adoring eyes and words build their wife’s confidence
  • God blesses our marriages and our marriage bed

Don’t give up on your spouse because you do not understand everything about them. Ground your self in what you do know…

  • God has made the two of you into one
  • Your spouse is broken just like you are
  • Your spouse cannot meet all your needs
  • Your spouse needs grace and love and encouragement to be the man or woman that God created them to be

So this week – in honor of being “Busted” 

  1. Read a passage in the Bible that you don’t understand with your spouse and ask them for insight or ideas.
  2. Share something with your spouse that you don’t understand about them and reaffirm your commitment and love
  3. Play cops and robbers in bed!!!

Ruth Buezis


Comments 3

  1. Love the application, Ruth! God is a mysterious God, full of wonder, and so are each of us! I like the idea of being transported in those verses; the man was somehow transported somewhere else upon thinking of his woman. Love transports us and transforms us! You are an inspiring teacher… thank you for this brief lesson! Here is some encouragement: we can ask God to reveal to us great and unsearchable things we do not already know! (Jeremiah 33:3)

  2. Ha! Love your “Busted” story and application! Thanks for sharing. Love how you encourage us to embrace the mystery of God! –What makes Him God, and us not!! He has and continues to reveal so much through his Word but some things are beyond us (can’t wait to ask him to clarify for us some day!). This made me think of these verses…. “The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may follow all the words of this law”. (Deuteronomy 29:29) and “For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part, then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.” (1 Corinthians 13:12). I was going to end there but now I read on: “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is LOVE!” (v. 13) Perfect for Song of Solomon, right? 🙂

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