Song of Songs 8:10-12


10 I am a wall,
    and my breasts are like towers.
Thus I have become in his eyes
    like one bringing contentment.
11 Solomon had a vineyard in Baal Hamon;
    he let out his vineyard to tenants.
Each was to bring for its fruit
    a thousand shekels of silver.
12 But my own vineyard is mine to give;
    the thousand shekels are for you, Solomon,
    and two hundred are for those who tend its fruit.

But my own vineyard is mine to give.

The other night I was teaching Awaken Love MEN’S EDITION Week 3 which is all about how a woman’s body works. Midway thru the night, I asked the men, “Can you make your wife have an orgasm?”

After thinking for a few minutes, one of the men said, “No. It is just like trying to make your kid drink water. You put the glass of water in front of them. You can add ice to make it more enticing. You dress it up in a special cup. You can encourage them and cheer them on. But ultimately, you cannot make them drink.”

How much we enjoy sex with our husband is in many ways dependent on us. We are the ones that have to shift our mindset to believe that sex is an amazing way that God created to glue us to our husband. We are the ones that have to combat the lies that have brain washed us into believing that our husbands just want to use us for a physical release. We are the ones that have to deal with the baggage that shames us and limits the freedom that we enjoy with our husband. We are the ones that have to be open to new physical feelings and awakenings in our body and go after a pleasure that may feel scary. We are the ones that have to be courageous enough to communicate what feels good and to allow our bodies to respond. We are the ones that have to dare to tap into our creativeness and eroticism and show our husbands what it means to really have some fun. No one can make you do it. It is up to you.

My vineyard is mine to give.

What an unbelievable gift to your husband – yourselves. 

This week – 

  1. What are you still holding on to and why? Pray about it and ask God for what you want.
  2. Identify and take a small step to grow in your responsiveness, communication or creativity.
  3. Literally wrap yourself in a bow and give yourself to your husband.

Ruth Buezis

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