Song of Songs 7:11-12


11 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,
    let us spend the night in the villages.[p]
12 Let us go early to the vineyards
    to see if the vines have budded,
if their blossoms have opened,
    and if the pomegranates are in bloom—
    there I will give you my love.

Let us go to the countryside

I love having sex in other locations, but it hasn’t always been that way.

Our family lives in California so we often travel for a week to visit. I used to fret and worry. Would someone hear us? Would they guess if we came down stairs late or slipped away in the middle of the day? Would we mess up the sheets? Sex rarely happened.

Family vacations in our miniature cabin that had sheets for doors was an excuse to take the week off of sex. I chose to focus on playing until I was too exhausted for anything else.

Besides the few times that we got away with just the two of us, I failed to take advantage of a change of scenery. I failed to grab the opportunities to make memories.  I failed to seize moments to even just take my husband away with me by kidnapping him in the laundry room, or getting creative out at the bonfire, or making out in the car as we waited for our kids activities to finish.

I don’t think this passage in Song of Songs is just about planning big vacations, or even weekends away. Hopefully those will happen once in a while, and they are great when they do.  I think this passage is also about watching for opportunities of coming away together – everyday – in the little things.

How many times do we miss out – do we miss connections- because we are distracted. Remember that concept of having an all day love affair and connecting through out the day? That means we have to watch for opportunities to connect – not just in bed when it is time to go to sleep.  We have to take our spouse away with us – even if it is just in a closet to escape into each other’s embrace for a moment.

This Week – 

  1. Grab your spouse when he least expects it – in the closet, the laundry room, the bathroom – and give him a treat he will not soon forget.
  2. Take your spouse away to the country side – if the weather is warm, go for a walk in the woods and connect – if it’s cold, park your car near a beautiful view and connect. Now I am not saying you have to have sex outside. If you are assured that you are in a private place and that’s what you want to do, then go for it. You could just make out, or enjoy a little tantalizing prelude – you decide – but do something to actually connect physically.
  3. Take  your spouse away by simply having sex in a different place of the house than you normally do

Ruth Buezis


Comments 0

  1. My hubby is very restrictive on our sex life….even avoiding having sex in hotels! And he flat out said no way at other people’s houses. Although, we haven’t been able to travel to visit in a LONG time and even longer alone (kids usually get lodged with us). Even if the hosts go out of their way to ensure we get privacy, alone time, and let us know they not only are ok, but encourage us to take advantage of the accommodations, he won’t. Probably because one time I got super loud thinking we were alone only to find out everyone in the condo complex heard me, and the friends we were vacationing with heard us on the floor below.

    Home is hard because we have lots and lots of kids in a little space.

    So, I change up our bedding. Furs, satins, silks……

  2. We live in a very quiet neighborhood with large yards and a screened back porch. Some of our favorite times are when we go out on the porch in the middle of the night with a blanket & enjoy each other on our swing. There’s something about the night air that makes it more exciting.

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